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<blockquote data-quote="Confused" data-source="post: 646425" data-attributes="member: 18100"><p>Thanks everyone. </p><p></p><p>Guide, Vacation? Thats on my "please give me a miracle list" <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> I still am willing to camp out somewhere for a week, although Ill be a nervous wreck in a tent in the middle of no where lol</p><p></p><p>Midwest,Yes its too much. So yes, he has VA but does not qualify for assisted living he needs more care. He has TRI Care, Medicare, and retirement check so he is set to have/hire more people. </p><p></p><p>Insane, I just dont know what to believe at this point, but your right on that.</p><p></p><p>Hound, Its hard isnt it for our elders and difficult children!! I mean if my kids didnt have issues, I had a reg job, and my dad was healthier, sure I can handle hrs with grandpa..with my kids by my side of course. Im glad your girls are starting to help. Hang in there too</p><p></p><p>**** Weird that I started this topic he was on his couch, as he was again tonight... this time I kept my cool just asked hey you ok, you need help to your chair or bathroom? Im proud of me for that BUT add my son tonight not going to sleep( refused sleeping pill and has been acting like a wild animal banging, jumping, talking, screaming like a tornado.) NO respect to at least keep it down while others try to sleep. No matter what he just wouldn't calm down! He even layed on the floor in the way of where my grandpa would have to walk knowing my grandpa cant see and barely walk.. Even when stepping outside he just screamed and neighbors lights when on :/ We came home and now was keeping my dad up! </p><p></p><p>My sister told me again tonight that "but you are there you can do it,. Ughhh really? I told her you and our Aunt says cuz your there! "Oh well they cant handle it like I can, Im doing such a great job.. just cut down some hrs so I can work too." they say. well sis says nursing home but not my decision its aunts - sort of. My cousin was tantrum happy as a child, my aunt has sympathy for me as my kids with issues, ( she says), esp son, as I understand even more so now what she went though, but even my cousin and sis weren't as bad as my son. So I keep thinking of my health, panic attacks, acid reflux is so bad most foods daily doesnt even make it down my throat. ( back on the otc medications) my teeth, my headaches, Im so tired all the time, shaking, whining( nothing new sorry) but guess what?</p><p></p><p>I see myself dead in less then 10 yrs because of all the stress, my health will just keep spiraling down and I wont be able to stop it. I see my kids with one day less of me, even if they hate me they are my life, loves and responsibility. All I can think about is how it will feel it being just me and my kids for a while( until my dad needs more care) I mean, my sis will eventually come and she can help our dad, hopefully. Even if its for 6months/year etc. Gpa will need help or VA at the same time. I will need a job away from town, I will lose this house but at this point, my kids and my sanity comes first. I am tired of things getting in my way to have a semi decent life. I want my troubles to be less, all I keep thinking is how many caregivers DIE BEFORE the patients... and with caring for two adults full time, my sis in a sense( again mix of both my kids) no way am I gonna take it, and that scares me. </p><p></p><p>You know, I did promise to keep my grandpa out, and I promised to help,and I have and am, but I never promised full time- almost 24/7. I can keep my promise by having help come in and I have told him that a while back.. you know what? Since he chooses not to, thats his fault because I told him I cant do 24/7 nor does he want me to he claims. So, Im not gonna feel guilty with that anymore.. I gave notice and warnings that I cant be there- doctors still clearing him to be home..as far as my kids... Im not giving up and still searching for help with evaluations.therapy's etc. Sorry so long but least I feel better!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Confused, post: 646425, member: 18100"] Thanks everyone. Guide, Vacation? Thats on my "please give me a miracle list" :) I still am willing to camp out somewhere for a week, although Ill be a nervous wreck in a tent in the middle of no where lol Midwest,Yes its too much. So yes, he has VA but does not qualify for assisted living he needs more care. He has TRI Care, Medicare, and retirement check so he is set to have/hire more people. Insane, I just dont know what to believe at this point, but your right on that. Hound, Its hard isnt it for our elders and difficult children!! I mean if my kids didnt have issues, I had a reg job, and my dad was healthier, sure I can handle hrs with grandpa..with my kids by my side of course. Im glad your girls are starting to help. Hang in there too **** Weird that I started this topic he was on his couch, as he was again tonight... this time I kept my cool just asked hey you ok, you need help to your chair or bathroom? Im proud of me for that BUT add my son tonight not going to sleep( refused sleeping pill and has been acting like a wild animal banging, jumping, talking, screaming like a tornado.) NO respect to at least keep it down while others try to sleep. No matter what he just wouldn't calm down! He even layed on the floor in the way of where my grandpa would have to walk knowing my grandpa cant see and barely walk.. Even when stepping outside he just screamed and neighbors lights when on :/ We came home and now was keeping my dad up! My sister told me again tonight that "but you are there you can do it,. Ughhh really? I told her you and our Aunt says cuz your there! "Oh well they cant handle it like I can, Im doing such a great job.. just cut down some hrs so I can work too." they say. well sis says nursing home but not my decision its aunts - sort of. My cousin was tantrum happy as a child, my aunt has sympathy for me as my kids with issues, ( she says), esp son, as I understand even more so now what she went though, but even my cousin and sis weren't as bad as my son. So I keep thinking of my health, panic attacks, acid reflux is so bad most foods daily doesnt even make it down my throat. ( back on the otc medications) my teeth, my headaches, Im so tired all the time, shaking, whining( nothing new sorry) but guess what? I see myself dead in less then 10 yrs because of all the stress, my health will just keep spiraling down and I wont be able to stop it. I see my kids with one day less of me, even if they hate me they are my life, loves and responsibility. All I can think about is how it will feel it being just me and my kids for a while( until my dad needs more care) I mean, my sis will eventually come and she can help our dad, hopefully. Even if its for 6months/year etc. Gpa will need help or VA at the same time. I will need a job away from town, I will lose this house but at this point, my kids and my sanity comes first. I am tired of things getting in my way to have a semi decent life. I want my troubles to be less, all I keep thinking is how many caregivers DIE BEFORE the patients... and with caring for two adults full time, my sis in a sense( again mix of both my kids) no way am I gonna take it, and that scares me. You know, I did promise to keep my grandpa out, and I promised to help,and I have and am, but I never promised full time- almost 24/7. I can keep my promise by having help come in and I have told him that a while back.. you know what? Since he chooses not to, thats his fault because I told him I cant do 24/7 nor does he want me to he claims. So, Im not gonna feel guilty with that anymore.. I gave notice and warnings that I cant be there- doctors still clearing him to be home..as far as my kids... Im not giving up and still searching for help with evaluations.therapy's etc. Sorry so long but least I feel better!! [/QUOTE]
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