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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 646922" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Well, I would stop letting family use you for t heir free care. There IS a reason there are shifts in nursing homes. The nurses would go crazy under your schedule. What a convenient excuse for Auntie. Why do you let them tell you what to do?</p><p></p><p>You only have a few years left to mother your children intensely.</p><p></p><p>You need to distance yourself from this whole situation or you will have you aunt's medical issues at age 39 or whatever. Your kids will never get the attention THEY need. And you will have no job experience at forty years old.</p><p></p><p>Your kids should not have to live this kind of life.</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to all of you. Here's hoping you finally decide to walk away. They'd all find a way to get care. They are using you. In the end, if anything happens to anybody, they will blame you. You are the family scapegoat. I've been there, and it doesn't feel good a nd you can never please all these people you hope will finally praise you for what you do.</p><p></p><p>Think of your children first. This is no life for them...Mom taking care of a very sick Grandpa every day, your father sick and under your care and your sister now another burden. Loving families don't have these expectations of one another. This is abuse. You are the only one who can stop it though.</p><p></p><p>If you take slow steps to change things, and you aren't even doing that, your kids will both be eighteen and disrespectful and possibly in serious trouble and you will two more to care for. It will never end because you allow it. This is on your shoulders. I hope you wake up and see that this is not love; it's abuse. The guilt is part of their abuse. A big part.</p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 646922, member: 1550"] Well, I would stop letting family use you for t heir free care. There IS a reason there are shifts in nursing homes. The nurses would go crazy under your schedule. What a convenient excuse for Auntie. Why do you let them tell you what to do? You only have a few years left to mother your children intensely. You need to distance yourself from this whole situation or you will have you aunt's medical issues at age 39 or whatever. Your kids will never get the attention THEY need. And you will have no job experience at forty years old. Your kids should not have to live this kind of life. My heart goes out to all of you. Here's hoping you finally decide to walk away. They'd all find a way to get care. They are using you. In the end, if anything happens to anybody, they will blame you. You are the family scapegoat. I've been there, and it doesn't feel good a nd you can never please all these people you hope will finally praise you for what you do. Think of your children first. This is no life for them...Mom taking care of a very sick Grandpa every day, your father sick and under your care and your sister now another burden. Loving families don't have these expectations of one another. This is abuse. You are the only one who can stop it though. If you take slow steps to change things, and you aren't even doing that, your kids will both be eighteen and disrespectful and possibly in serious trouble and you will two more to care for. It will never end because you allow it. This is on your shoulders. I hope you wake up and see that this is not love; it's abuse. The guilt is part of their abuse. A big part. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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