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Email from difficult child-- do I (how) respond?
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 619036" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>If you want to have any kind of extended conversation with your son, use a mediator therapist in a neutral setting. </p><p></p><p> in my opinion I would not interact with your parents at all about your son or anything else related to you/them right now. You have enough to deal with.</p><p></p><p>What they do with or for your son is between them and has nothing to do with you. </p><p></p><p>My son wrote me several long emails like this one some years ago. I would get really involved back with long emails. It was a big waste of time and energy and changed nothing that I can see.</p><p></p><p>It is not what people say. It is what they do. </p><p></p><p>We can all be sorry for mistakes we make and making amends for our wrongs is good for us and for our loved ones. </p><p></p><p>A sincere apology just takes a very few words. It doesn't have to be convoluted and tied to a bunch of other stuff. </p><p></p><p>Keep it simple. Keep it simple.</p><p></p><p>The less you say and the less you do is better for everybody. </p><p></p><p>Also continue to wait. Things have a way of moving without our involvement if we will give them a chance to do so. </p><p></p><p>Remember: you can not control these people or what they do next. You can only control yourself and what you will say or do next. </p><p></p><p>So take your time and be thoughtful before you speak or act.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent from my iPhone using ConductDisorders</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 619036, member: 17542"] If you want to have any kind of extended conversation with your son, use a mediator therapist in a neutral setting. in my opinion I would not interact with your parents at all about your son or anything else related to you/them right now. You have enough to deal with. What they do with or for your son is between them and has nothing to do with you. My son wrote me several long emails like this one some years ago. I would get really involved back with long emails. It was a big waste of time and energy and changed nothing that I can see. It is not what people say. It is what they do. We can all be sorry for mistakes we make and making amends for our wrongs is good for us and for our loved ones. A sincere apology just takes a very few words. It doesn't have to be convoluted and tied to a bunch of other stuff. Keep it simple. Keep it simple. The less you say and the less you do is better for everybody. Also continue to wait. Things have a way of moving without our involvement if we will give them a chance to do so. Remember: you can not control these people or what they do next. You can only control yourself and what you will say or do next. So take your time and be thoughtful before you speak or act. Sent from my iPhone using ConductDisorders [/QUOTE]
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