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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 437583" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>We had a therapist who was very good at helping difficult child 1 deal with this same kind of emotional reaction. Granted, he was much more receptive to this stuff when we got his medications right. The therapist gave me this chart (I'll have to see if I can find it) that he would talk difficult child 1 through, beginning with the trigger and the thoughts that it generates, and then he analyzes those negative thoughts and difficult child 1 was able to see how illogical, self undermining, even ridiculous those negative thought processes were. </p><p></p><p>For example, difficult child 1 was angry with me for something that happened that he blamed me for. As if I PURPOSELY sabotaged him. The therapist asked him questions that got him thinking about his relationship with me -- how I am the one who is ALWAYS there for him, who ALWAYS tries to get him help for what he needs, who looks out for him, cares for him, LOVES him. Then he asked him if he really thought that if all those things about me were TRUE, would I REALLY do what he's imagining I had done to hurt him? I guess what he was doing was taking an irrational thought process and breaking it down rationally to expose it for what it truly is. That really helped turn his thinking around -- but like I said about the medications, if they weren't right he would NOT be very receptive to any of that type of therapy. At one point, he refused to even get out of the car to go in to the appointment (we were still tweaking medications at that point). SO the therapist went out to the car with me and we sat in the front seat with a pouting/sulking difficult child 1 in the back seat. And we did the therapy with him listening. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> The next week went much better!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 437583, member: 3444"] We had a therapist who was very good at helping difficult child 1 deal with this same kind of emotional reaction. Granted, he was much more receptive to this stuff when we got his medications right. The therapist gave me this chart (I'll have to see if I can find it) that he would talk difficult child 1 through, beginning with the trigger and the thoughts that it generates, and then he analyzes those negative thoughts and difficult child 1 was able to see how illogical, self undermining, even ridiculous those negative thought processes were. For example, difficult child 1 was angry with me for something that happened that he blamed me for. As if I PURPOSELY sabotaged him. The therapist asked him questions that got him thinking about his relationship with me -- how I am the one who is ALWAYS there for him, who ALWAYS tries to get him help for what he needs, who looks out for him, cares for him, LOVES him. Then he asked him if he really thought that if all those things about me were TRUE, would I REALLY do what he's imagining I had done to hurt him? I guess what he was doing was taking an irrational thought process and breaking it down rationally to expose it for what it truly is. That really helped turn his thinking around -- but like I said about the medications, if they weren't right he would NOT be very receptive to any of that type of therapy. At one point, he refused to even get out of the car to go in to the appointment (we were still tweaking medications at that point). SO the therapist went out to the car with me and we sat in the front seat with a pouting/sulking difficult child 1 in the back seat. And we did the therapy with him listening. :D The next week went much better! [/QUOTE]
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