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Emotional manipulation or something more serious from 4 yr old grandson...
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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 503417" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Just MHO, but, child therapy, when done appropriately for even preschoolers can be really beneficial. (not talking about remediation for neurological issues here, but for life stress and how to express themselves if they haven't had that kind of parenting) Usually it involves play therapy where they can act out their life situations, and expressing feelings, teaching feeling words, and problem solving at a developmentally appropriate level of course. If they act out things in the play they can rework the scenes and help work through abuse etc. At this age, that involves parents learning to do the same types of communication as the therapist, and to learn how to help the child express themselves in appropriate ways. If the parent is needing parenting help (are you sure daughter in law only spanked, was she very angry and yelling, etc?...she is under enormous stress herself) it can also help the parent learn other ways to correct behavior. To me, just because many of us have kids where traditional parenting does not work, does not mean it is worthless for some people. I have family members who have done this and Q and I went to attachment/theraplay when he was only 3 and 4 and it was well worth it. There are many people who value learning new parenting ideas from what they grew up with. There are good therapists out there. If it turns out, or if you now suspect he has your difficult child's issues I too would seek a neuropsychologist evaluation but if it is this issue only....??? I maybe would work with a reputable child psychologist or therapist. It is all in your daughter's hands anyway I suppose. Is she doing alright? Do you think her stress is coming out in some of your grandson's behavior?</p><p></p><p>Kids blame themselves for everything. He is being told his daddy is gone for work or just out of town... I think you said? Still he may think daddy is gone to work away from the family because of something about him... Kids think they have TONS of power. It is just something to think about... He may simply be very sad about him not being home and also sad, confused, worried, whatever.... about mommy being sad. I could be way off, but was just thinking these things as I was reading the posts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 503417, member: 12886"] Just MHO, but, child therapy, when done appropriately for even preschoolers can be really beneficial. (not talking about remediation for neurological issues here, but for life stress and how to express themselves if they haven't had that kind of parenting) Usually it involves play therapy where they can act out their life situations, and expressing feelings, teaching feeling words, and problem solving at a developmentally appropriate level of course. If they act out things in the play they can rework the scenes and help work through abuse etc. At this age, that involves parents learning to do the same types of communication as the therapist, and to learn how to help the child express themselves in appropriate ways. If the parent is needing parenting help (are you sure daughter in law only spanked, was she very angry and yelling, etc?...she is under enormous stress herself) it can also help the parent learn other ways to correct behavior. To me, just because many of us have kids where traditional parenting does not work, does not mean it is worthless for some people. I have family members who have done this and Q and I went to attachment/theraplay when he was only 3 and 4 and it was well worth it. There are many people who value learning new parenting ideas from what they grew up with. There are good therapists out there. If it turns out, or if you now suspect he has your difficult child's issues I too would seek a neuropsychologist evaluation but if it is this issue only....??? I maybe would work with a reputable child psychologist or therapist. It is all in your daughter's hands anyway I suppose. Is she doing alright? Do you think her stress is coming out in some of your grandson's behavior? Kids blame themselves for everything. He is being told his daddy is gone for work or just out of town... I think you said? Still he may think daddy is gone to work away from the family because of something about him... Kids think they have TONS of power. It is just something to think about... He may simply be very sad about him not being home and also sad, confused, worried, whatever.... about mommy being sad. I could be way off, but was just thinking these things as I was reading the posts. [/QUOTE]
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