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Emotional manipulation or something more serious from 4 yr old grandson...
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 503427" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>LMS,</p><p></p><p>I understand where you are coming from. You are afraid that if you allow your grandson to act like a victim he will become like his father. But in my opinion it is best not to project that way. Telling him not to talk like he feels sorry for himself, will not change the way he thinks. He is probably quite a lot like your son emotionally because he has his DNA. However, he can learn to channel his personality in different ways than your son did. I agree that therapy can work for a very young child. My daughter was very young when an older child molested her and she had therapy with an expert in young children. A lot of it was play/acting out therapy. Young children "tell" a lot by how they play. And a good therapist knows what to look for and how to ask questions without really asking them.</p><p></p><p> I have no idea if your grandson saw your son trying to kill himself or being taken to the hospital or heard anybody talking about it, but, if he did, that was probably very traumatic and he probably thinks he caused it (kids are like that). Most likely he would really benefit from a professional getting him to work it out. I do NOT think you should try doing it yourself. The therapist will help guide you in ways to behave when he expresses scary thoughts.</p><p></p><p>We are on your side and want to help you, whatever you decide to do. Hugs!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 503427, member: 1550"] LMS, I understand where you are coming from. You are afraid that if you allow your grandson to act like a victim he will become like his father. But in my opinion it is best not to project that way. Telling him not to talk like he feels sorry for himself, will not change the way he thinks. He is probably quite a lot like your son emotionally because he has his DNA. However, he can learn to channel his personality in different ways than your son did. I agree that therapy can work for a very young child. My daughter was very young when an older child molested her and she had therapy with an expert in young children. A lot of it was play/acting out therapy. Young children "tell" a lot by how they play. And a good therapist knows what to look for and how to ask questions without really asking them. I have no idea if your grandson saw your son trying to kill himself or being taken to the hospital or heard anybody talking about it, but, if he did, that was probably very traumatic and he probably thinks he caused it (kids are like that). Most likely he would really benefit from a professional getting him to work it out. I do NOT think you should try doing it yourself. The therapist will help guide you in ways to behave when he expresses scary thoughts. We are on your side and want to help you, whatever you decide to do. Hugs!!! [/QUOTE]
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