I have read a number or recent posts here and wonder about my own lackings as so many here have so much more to deal with than I and yet I am at my own limit. Perhaps that is because I have so little reserve and no support. Anyway, I feel truly embarrassed to write about the issues I have with my son after reading about some of the things others are dealing with - but here goes: my son has encopresis, which basically is a soiling problem. It seems innocuous on the surface but it creates significant life coping problems in school and socially if not corrected but most tryingly it creates coping struggles for me. After finding mediocre means of treatment (prescribed and suggested by pediatrician. and pediatrician. Gastro) I learned of a University Hospital based program that had a different protocol. Couldn't get into the study, nor learn about their system of treating the children. I did find another program but have not invested the relatively small amount of money as money is very, very tight. (Whole other issue when it comes to MY coping with life.) The bottom line is that part of the 2nd protocol is to hydrate daily and to use regular enemas. I have been doing this but for the first time since Sept. my son had an accident last night when we were at dinner with another mother and son. OK - one accident in 5 months - that's a new record and no so bad. Well - he just had another accident. One of the strangest things about it is that he absolutely does not seem to mind. When I ask him about it - he ALWAYS denies that he has had an accident even though the odor is unquestionable. I am just so amazed that he would rather keep doing whatever he is doing even though he has pooped or wet his pants. At age 8, in the 2nd grade, it is getting to be a real social problem. In December, at his birthday party he wet his pants toward the end and just kept playing as though there were nothing wrong. I was standing with another mother who was saying goodbye and who stood slack jawed over the fact that he was unabashedly ignoring his growing wet spot. Part of my real frustration is that HE doesn't seem to care and HE absolutely is not invested in solving the problem. Same thing about his lips and his painfully crusted bloody nose (from the dry air from the heater.) Is there anyway I can enlist his interest in solving these problems? Boy that would sure help enormously. There is something that feels slightly insane about trying to resolve these problems and having ZERO investment on his part. I am baffled.