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<blockquote data-quote="lambsear2" data-source="post: 151025" data-attributes="member: 5136"><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">My difficult child was going down the same path (at age 13/14). We were told to contact the department of mental health for the SPOA (single point of application) program (in NY) They take a ton of information and then try to help find the right resources for your situation. I was told that in order to have difficult child placed in a residential program, this was the route I would need to take. (we could not afford to send him on our own)</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">Additionally we were advised to file a PINS application (person in need of supervision) This is thru the family courts. The courts have the ability to pull difficult child from home and put him somewhere else.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">The key here is that you do not have control over difficult child & he is a danger to himself & others "you are in a crisis situation" Those are the key phrases you need to work with- they are attention getters.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">You can sometimes get information/direction from the Dept of family services. Also related to the family court system.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">Sometimes the situation resolves itself. My difficult child was in the wrong place at the wrong time, we still do not actually know how involved he was, but he as arrested at 14. The courts determined that he was out of our contol placed him for 18 months at an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). He is home now and is much more manageable.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">You cannot just give up. It is not healthy for you and will only build resentment. You have to keep working on this even if it is for your own sanity.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">PS- this may seem a bit Occupational Therapist (OT), but you also need to make sure that you have good liability insurance with at least $500k coverage. We are now facing a huge lawsuit due to difficult child. Our homeowners insurance is the only thing that is going to keep us afloat. (in NY you cannot lose your home due to a lawsuit so that is a small blessing.) If your difficult child is already breaking and entering, other things can happen, the signs are all there. You need to protect yourself and your family.</span></span></span></p><p></p><p><span style="color: #0f2637"><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">Additionally, consider keeping a log of your efforts, times/dates/names. Part of our lawsuit is for negligence on our part as parents. They are saying that we did not provide sufficient supervision and that we did not try to get our difficult child sufficient assistance.</span></span></span></p><p> </p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lambsear2, post: 151025, member: 5136"] [COLOR=#0f2637][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]My difficult child was going down the same path (at age 13/14). We were told to contact the department of mental health for the SPOA (single point of application) program (in NY) They take a ton of information and then try to help find the right resources for your situation. I was told that in order to have difficult child placed in a residential program, this was the route I would need to take. (we could not afford to send him on our own)[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Additionally we were advised to file a PINS application (person in need of supervision) This is thru the family courts. The courts have the ability to pull difficult child from home and put him somewhere else.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]The key here is that you do not have control over difficult child & he is a danger to himself & others "you are in a crisis situation" Those are the key phrases you need to work with- they are attention getters.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]You can sometimes get information/direction from the Dept of family services. Also related to the family court system.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Sometimes the situation resolves itself. My difficult child was in the wrong place at the wrong time, we still do not actually know how involved he was, but he as arrested at 14. The courts determined that he was out of our contol placed him for 18 months at an Residential Treatment Center (RTC). He is home now and is much more manageable.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]You cannot just give up. It is not healthy for you and will only build resentment. You have to keep working on this even if it is for your own sanity.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]PS- this may seem a bit Occupational Therapist (OT), but you also need to make sure that you have good liability insurance with at least $500k coverage. We are now facing a huge lawsuit due to difficult child. Our homeowners insurance is the only thing that is going to keep us afloat. (in NY you cannot lose your home due to a lawsuit so that is a small blessing.) If your difficult child is already breaking and entering, other things can happen, the signs are all there. You need to protect yourself and your family.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][FONT=Times New Roman][/FONT][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][SIZE=3][FONT=Times New Roman]Additionally, consider keeping a log of your efforts, times/dates/names. Part of our lawsuit is for negligence on our part as parents. They are saying that we did not provide sufficient supervision and that we did not try to get our difficult child sufficient assistance.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/COLOR] [COLOR=#0f2637][SIZE=3][/SIZE][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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