Once again my 5 year old is screaming,kicking the doors and throwing a tantrum because I tried getting him ready for school. He has now missed 11 days since he started Kinder,10 for illness and 5 of those the last two weeks.Today because he refused to get ready and I have no way of getting him to school and its only half a day anyways. I start always by talking softly, telling them "OK, time to get up" they will ask for 5 more minutes, I will let them. But it takes over an hour sometimes (usually 30 min) just to get up and then an another hr on top. No matter what punishments I give them and no matter what plan I use, they hate me and they just want to live "like" their dad. He lets them do anything, they are just like him its amazing. My son usually gets 10-12 hours sleep a night and did so last night, all the medications from bronchitis and ear infection helps him sleep. I know what your going to say, he's sick so it makes it worse-they are grumpier, or he was use to staying home. Good points, and can be true, yes. But If you look at my last years posts, when he wasn't sick at all, and used to going, this is what he pulled. So I'm just the worst parent ever apparently. I want to be here all the time giving advice but all i can say is" you already got great advice,hugs,good luck,or document" because I cant even help my own kids. All I ask is for them to go to bed and get up on time, keep their rooms "OK", do their homework, no violence, eat healthy (as possible ) and help with their pets. I gave up on their help with their pets issue. Also, to take showers and help/pick up their own mess, no chat site on the computer ( computer is limited anyways). I guess this makes me a bad parent. They hate me,want me to go away, Im a lier, shall I continue what they call me? Especially my son. I don't know what to do anymore. I have my school presentation due by noon, and he's home being angry and violent. (yesterday he was going to throw a folding child's chair at me) I do have them make "chores" what they want/can do,how to get them to bed or up but it doesn't work. They don't even follow what they chose! Again,especially my son. For example, he gets playing or reading, and that's what he is focused on, we interrupt him and "WWIII" hits. He's so edgey most of the time,when he actually is laughing I just want to freeze time! I hug him and praise him how handsome and what a smart and big boy he is when he is this way ( as I do both). Maybe I'm missing something,what am I not seeing? Am I seeing into too much? Am I overreacting? I know I have room for improvement, not blaming all this on them. But dam, (sorry so ugghh! ) I just am so torn. He's still pounding doors as I'm typing, I bet he will go on for a couple hours. My neighbors complain when they hear this. I understand though. Its hard being mom AND dad. If the dad could just be a dad, maybe this would have helped? I know single moms who their child isn't like this. My daughter has to be just at that age as well, testing me,hormones as other have said here. But my son, its off and on. Here we go, slam, kick,I hate you,just go away, telling me to give him the key to unlock the bathroom, but it is unlocked,lights on and open.He keeps locking the doors on me and doesn't want me in so he is saying this. I can hear the kicking/screaming from the other side of the house, do I hold him down? Usually this made him worse. I'm sorry once again.