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My name is Felicia and I am a single mother of 4. 3 boys ages 12,11 and 8 and my daughter is 5. 2 of my boys have ADHD (12 AND 8) My 12 year old also has behavior disorder and for the most part hard to calm down and impulsive. He has been this way since the age of 7 but first started showings signs of aggression around the age of 5. 7-3-10 he went to the store 7-11 and stole some fireworks(3:45pm) and got caught but returned them unopened. He was brought home by the police and was charged with Theft rightfully. That is not his 1st time either. We live very close to shopping centers in our neighborhood. He does know that stealing is bad but as I said in the beginning he is a "thrill seeker". Later that evening I tried to discipline him by sending him to his room (what a mistake) he banged the walls, screamed for hours and then finally it got quiet so I thought he maybe went to sleep so I went in to check in on him. He was gone jumped out the window of his room. As I mentioned it was 7-3-2010 and I had a small get together at my home (day before 4th of July) he did this in front of my company but it was my family and they are use to this. Well now it is about 8 pm and dark out Even though I had company I went out to look for him. I couldn't find him.(he always goes to a friend's house and of course hide out there when he is upset with me) So I return home well a few minutes later my company had left (too much action) well drinking was going on and couldn't really have a comfortable night. I get a knock at the door it is the police with my son and DCFS! One of my son's friends Mom called them because my son told them I had hit him(child abuse)!! I let them in and they sat at my kitchen table and the Investigator saw an empty bottle of Vodka on the counter. (forgot to throw it away) to make a very long story short I was investigated and charged with Civil Child Neglect. Now I have a open case. Before this incident my son had at least 15 police contacts (fighting, stealing being gone and I having to call them to help me find him) the courts DA got tired of seeing his name on the juvenile list and charged him with things he had done in the past and asked me to bring him to court and that is when I found out that they were charging me with Civil Child Neglect for basically not watching my kid!! They took custody and guardianship was awarded to DCFS he was sent 8-10 to 10-10 in Juvenile Justice Center. Plead guilty on his own( he can't make decisions like this for himself) but they said I had nothing to do with it. (huh?) They release him he came home on 2 years probation things went well for a little bit the around 9-11 stole $450.00 dollars from me so I called the police because he was running around not wanting to give back the $ or come home with me!! now he is in Chicago in a behavior treatment facility (doing no better than he was at home) I miss him I want him out they say treatment is what he needs. They failed to notice that I had him in "treatment" he and I saw a counselor on a weekly basis. He went to an Emotional behavior school he has a IEP he has been hospitalized 2 times for help. He crys like a newborn baby when I go to see him!! When he comes home on a supervised visit he hates to leave. I know he is VERY SORRY for what he did but he is only 12 and still learning on how to deal with his issues. How can I help him get out of this court ordered place? He spent all of the holidays last year as well as his birthday away from home. I am the parent and I have not lost my rights. They made me look like a villian and took my son from me..HELP sorry for the long post
My name is Felicia and I am a single mother of 4. 3 boys ages 12,11 and 8 and my daughter is 5. 2 of my boys have ADHD (12 AND 8) My 12 year old also has behavior disorder and for the most part hard to calm down and impulsive. He has been this way since the age of 7 but first started showings signs of aggression around the age of 5. 7-3-10 he went to the store 7-11 and stole some fireworks(3:45pm) and got caught but returned them unopened. He was brought home by the police and was charged with Theft rightfully. That is not his 1st time either. We live very close to shopping centers in our neighborhood. He does know that stealing is bad but as I said in the beginning he is a "thrill seeker". Later that evening I tried to discipline him by sending him to his room (what a mistake) he banged the walls, screamed for hours and then finally it got quiet so I thought he maybe went to sleep so I went in to check in on him. He was gone jumped out the window of his room. As I mentioned it was 7-3-2010 and I had a small get together at my home (day before 4th of July) he did this in front of my company but it was my family and they are use to this. Well now it is about 8 pm and dark out Even though I had company I went out to look for him. I couldn't find him.(he always goes to a friend's house and of course hide out there when he is upset with me) So I return home well a few minutes later my company had left (too much action) well drinking was going on and couldn't really have a comfortable night. I get a knock at the door it is the police with my son and DCFS! One of my son's friends Mom called them because my son told them I had hit him(child abuse)!! I let them in and they sat at my kitchen table and the Investigator saw an empty bottle of Vodka on the counter. (forgot to throw it away) to make a very long story short I was investigated and charged with Civil Child Neglect. Now I have a open case. Before this incident my son had at least 15 police contacts (fighting, stealing being gone and I having to call them to help me find him) the courts DA got tired of seeing his name on the juvenile list and charged him with things he had done in the past and asked me to bring him to court and that is when I found out that they were charging me with Civil Child Neglect for basically not watching my kid!! They took custody and guardianship was awarded to DCFS he was sent 8-10 to 10-10 in Juvenile Justice Center. Plead guilty on his own( he can't make decisions like this for himself) but they said I had nothing to do with it. (huh?) They release him he came home on 2 years probation things went well for a little bit the around 9-11 stole $450.00 dollars from me so I called the police because he was running around not wanting to give back the $ or come home with me!! now he is in Chicago in a behavior treatment facility (doing no better than he was at home) I miss him I want him out they say treatment is what he needs. They failed to notice that I had him in "treatment" he and I saw a counselor on a weekly basis. He went to an Emotional behavior school he has a IEP he has been hospitalized 2 times for help. He crys like a newborn baby when I go to see him!! When he comes home on a supervised visit he hates to leave. I know he is VERY SORRY for what he did but he is only 12 and still learning on how to deal with his issues. How can I help him get out of this court ordered place? He spent all of the holidays last year as well as his birthday away from home. I am the parent and I have not lost my rights. They made me look like a villian and took my son from me..HELP sorry for the long post