scent of cedar
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difficult child (and the rescuing male) were planning to meet us at the storage unit on Friday to collect difficult child's things. Everything else will go to Goodwill. Then, to spend the weekend with us.
Yesterday, difficult child had a moment. She was talking about getting her kids back. Talking about how nasty the ex-husband was, in telling difficult child's sons what he had, about their mother. I told difficult child she needed to be grateful to ex-husband. That now, or any time soon, is too soon for her to have her children back. That what the kids need now is stability, is going to the same school for a whole year, is living with family who love them so they can recover from the chaos of the past months.
Initially, difficult child was angry, then claimed what she felt was sadness.
Said things like the only reason she was "doing this" was to get her kids back.
Does anyone else see where this is going?
difficult child calls again, later that afternoon. I would say she had been drinking. She was definitely slurring her speech. This was a crisis call. She needed to hitchhike the couple of hundred miles back to the city she had just been rescued from. Said she would make it out to our house, if she could. (We are an hour from the city.) Said she was in danger, That the "rescuer" had turned on her. Did not want the police. Would not tell us where, exactly, she was so we could go pick her up. Said she did not have time to wait. Hung up unexpectedly, after telling me repeatedly that she loved me. (I feel difficult child was playing me so blatantly by this time that even I could see it.)
difficult child did not make it home, of course. If she made it anywhere, it was back to the people she has been living with for the past months. I heard, via Facebook, from the rescuer this morning. I believe he may still have her. Which would explain the strange phone cal from difficult child. She had ducked into a bar somewhere, and the rescuing male came looking for, and found her.
And dragged her back up North.
When I thought about it...this is what happens, when people are trying to steer a better path.
I am grateful to the rescuing male.
So, while it doesn't sound like it at first glance...things are good.
Barbara
Yesterday, difficult child had a moment. She was talking about getting her kids back. Talking about how nasty the ex-husband was, in telling difficult child's sons what he had, about their mother. I told difficult child she needed to be grateful to ex-husband. That now, or any time soon, is too soon for her to have her children back. That what the kids need now is stability, is going to the same school for a whole year, is living with family who love them so they can recover from the chaos of the past months.
Initially, difficult child was angry, then claimed what she felt was sadness.
Said things like the only reason she was "doing this" was to get her kids back.
Does anyone else see where this is going?
difficult child calls again, later that afternoon. I would say she had been drinking. She was definitely slurring her speech. This was a crisis call. She needed to hitchhike the couple of hundred miles back to the city she had just been rescued from. Said she would make it out to our house, if she could. (We are an hour from the city.) Said she was in danger, That the "rescuer" had turned on her. Did not want the police. Would not tell us where, exactly, she was so we could go pick her up. Said she did not have time to wait. Hung up unexpectedly, after telling me repeatedly that she loved me. (I feel difficult child was playing me so blatantly by this time that even I could see it.)
difficult child did not make it home, of course. If she made it anywhere, it was back to the people she has been living with for the past months. I heard, via Facebook, from the rescuer this morning. I believe he may still have her. Which would explain the strange phone cal from difficult child. She had ducked into a bar somewhere, and the rescuing male came looking for, and found her.
And dragged her back up North.
When I thought about it...this is what happens, when people are trying to steer a better path.
I am grateful to the rescuing male.
So, while it doesn't sound like it at first glance...things are good.
Barbara