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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 119266" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>Moving is on list as one of the Top 10 biggest stressors a family can face. However, verbal, mental & emotional abuse are far worse and that's exactly how you're being abused. </p><p></p><p>Verbally, mentally, and emotionally. And guess what? So are your kids being abused in the same manner. </p><p></p><p>Thank GOD there is no physical violence, but sometimes words leave harsher wounds. </p><p></p><p>Emotional Neglect - that's why I moved my kids out of my old house almost 17 years ago, away from my exh. It was very hard, I went on welfare for a while, received federal aid for health coverage, education for free, financial assistance for food. I felt ashamed, humiliated and embarrassed. I felt, "Oh My God - this is SOOOOooooOOOOo not me!" ASAP, I got back on my feet. My dds' happiness is what I lived for. I was determined to provide for them a home, a family home, in which they felt secure, had their needs met and were happy. </p><p></p><p>Do my girls have emotional scars from the moves (there were 3 total)? I really believe that all the goodness in their lives has virtually obliterated the scars from that time in their lives.. I KNOW that it was difficult for them, but I protected them, showered them with love and played with them, hoping to make up for it. I think in small ways it has. </p><p></p><p>I think they are they better off with those small residual emotional scars as opposed to growing up with a depressed set of parents who never spoke, never laughed, never hugged, never shared or enjoyed one another, and never slept together. I think they are way better off and I have never ever regretted getting my kids out of there.</p><p></p><p>We underestimate the strength and determination we have within us as well as the amazing resilience of our children. You love your children and they love you, they trust you. Now trust them. With your love for your children involved in every aspect of their day and knowing that their mom is working towards something great for all of you, I think they will survive the moves.</p><p></p><p>Reach out to your local Womens shelter, the YMCA, YWCA, Catholic Charities, your local church, find the social services office nearest you and see what you're eligible for. </p><p></p><p>Hugs and much luck! I will be thinking of you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 119266, member: 2211"] Moving is on list as one of the Top 10 biggest stressors a family can face. However, verbal, mental & emotional abuse are far worse and that's exactly how you're being abused. Verbally, mentally, and emotionally. And guess what? So are your kids being abused in the same manner. Thank GOD there is no physical violence, but sometimes words leave harsher wounds. Emotional Neglect - that's why I moved my kids out of my old house almost 17 years ago, away from my exh. It was very hard, I went on welfare for a while, received federal aid for health coverage, education for free, financial assistance for food. I felt ashamed, humiliated and embarrassed. I felt, "Oh My God - this is SOOOOooooOOOOo not me!" ASAP, I got back on my feet. My dds' happiness is what I lived for. I was determined to provide for them a home, a family home, in which they felt secure, had their needs met and were happy. Do my girls have emotional scars from the moves (there were 3 total)? I really believe that all the goodness in their lives has virtually obliterated the scars from that time in their lives.. I KNOW that it was difficult for them, but I protected them, showered them with love and played with them, hoping to make up for it. I think in small ways it has. I think they are they better off with those small residual emotional scars as opposed to growing up with a depressed set of parents who never spoke, never laughed, never hugged, never shared or enjoyed one another, and never slept together. I think they are way better off and I have never ever regretted getting my kids out of there. We underestimate the strength and determination we have within us as well as the amazing resilience of our children. You love your children and they love you, they trust you. Now trust them. With your love for your children involved in every aspect of their day and knowing that their mom is working towards something great for all of you, I think they will survive the moves. Reach out to your local Womens shelter, the YMCA, YWCA, Catholic Charities, your local church, find the social services office nearest you and see what you're eligible for. Hugs and much luck! I will be thinking of you! [/QUOTE]
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