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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 575328" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Sorry you are hurting and welcome to the board.</p><p></p><p>You can't force your adult daughter to keep contact and any attempt to do so would probably backfire in this point. However without knowing more about you or your daughter or your situation, a common life experience says that this kind of 'want you out of my life'-stints are usually not permanent.</p><p></p><p>You don't tell more about the circumstances around her decision to leave, but if you had a fight or some disagreement and if you did or said something you shouldn't have or what you would want to take back now in calmer situation, you can apologise for that. But other than that don't take her actions to your responsibility. Try to be calm and adult and not to take it personally. She is a legal adult and she has a right to move out from your house. However it is up to you how much you are willing to help her in this situation.</p><p></p><p>Try not to feed her drama. Don't beg her, don't bribe her, don't blackmail her, don't harass her. Just let her know that you are always open to have a relationship with her and would like to meet her regularly and would be happy to offer her a dinner. And remind her about that time to time (but not too often.) It is very likely that she is again happy to have contact with you in few months after she gets over whatever made her angry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 575328, member: 14557"] Sorry you are hurting and welcome to the board. You can't force your adult daughter to keep contact and any attempt to do so would probably backfire in this point. However without knowing more about you or your daughter or your situation, a common life experience says that this kind of 'want you out of my life'-stints are usually not permanent. You don't tell more about the circumstances around her decision to leave, but if you had a fight or some disagreement and if you did or said something you shouldn't have or what you would want to take back now in calmer situation, you can apologise for that. But other than that don't take her actions to your responsibility. Try to be calm and adult and not to take it personally. She is a legal adult and she has a right to move out from your house. However it is up to you how much you are willing to help her in this situation. Try not to feed her drama. Don't beg her, don't bribe her, don't blackmail her, don't harass her. Just let her know that you are always open to have a relationship with her and would like to meet her regularly and would be happy to offer her a dinner. And remind her about that time to time (but not too often.) It is very likely that she is again happy to have contact with you in few months after she gets over whatever made her angry. [/QUOTE]
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