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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 575420" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I can see how you would feel that way. Well, we all make different decisions regarding finances, locks, 'stuff.' Perhaps the best way to deal with it is to let her know that her moving precipitated a number of decisions that will now need to be made at some point and that you and she will need to have a conversation regarding those issues. I don't think you should cut all strings until you make an attempt to talk to her. If that fails and she is unwilling to even talk to you, if it were me, I would get very clear on what my willingness is in terms of helping her financially, my feelings about the locks and her stuff and I would communicate that to her, essentially warning her that you intend to take action now. If you still don't hear anything, then you will have to decide if that is the point where you cut off your financial support and change the locks. I think a series of sincere communications need to take place before any severe action is taken. It doesn't sound as if you are clear as to why she left, how long she intends to be gone, etc. She may be having an emotional reaction to your divorce, we all grieve differently and at different times, or she may be seriously moving out. Divorces are devastating to the whole family unit, so I imagine you are all reeling from the impact of it. It takes time for the dust to settle and for everyone to get back on level ground. Like many of us here, you might require some professional support to get through your own feelings and now your daughters choices too. Or, you and your daughter, if it feels right, may opt for counseling together so you can move through whatever is on your plate right now. Keep posting, it helps. I hope you find your way easily through this, it's hard, I know.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 575420, member: 13542"] I can see how you would feel that way. Well, we all make different decisions regarding finances, locks, 'stuff.' Perhaps the best way to deal with it is to let her know that her moving precipitated a number of decisions that will now need to be made at some point and that you and she will need to have a conversation regarding those issues. I don't think you should cut all strings until you make an attempt to talk to her. If that fails and she is unwilling to even talk to you, if it were me, I would get very clear on what my willingness is in terms of helping her financially, my feelings about the locks and her stuff and I would communicate that to her, essentially warning her that you intend to take action now. If you still don't hear anything, then you will have to decide if that is the point where you cut off your financial support and change the locks. I think a series of sincere communications need to take place before any severe action is taken. It doesn't sound as if you are clear as to why she left, how long she intends to be gone, etc. She may be having an emotional reaction to your divorce, we all grieve differently and at different times, or she may be seriously moving out. Divorces are devastating to the whole family unit, so I imagine you are all reeling from the impact of it. It takes time for the dust to settle and for everyone to get back on level ground. Like many of us here, you might require some professional support to get through your own feelings and now your daughters choices too. Or, you and your daughter, if it feels right, may opt for counseling together so you can move through whatever is on your plate right now. Keep posting, it helps. I hope you find your way easily through this, it's hard, I know. [/QUOTE]
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