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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 575472" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>A lot of kids, even grown kids, don't like to see Dad or Mom living with New Honey. Now I don't know the circumstances of your divorce, but if you left, she may blame you. It is common for grown kids to take sides and then switch sides and then take sides again, especially if the divorce was not amicable. Again, without knowing why she is angry, it's hard to say. If you cheated on her mom...hey, what did you expect? If you made the decision to leave and then hooked up with this new women right away, it takes time to adjust. in my opinion it's best to leave the family out of your relationships for at least a year or until you are almost engaged. It's weird for even grown kids to see their parents dating and sleeping with somebody who is not their other parent. My parents went through a nasty divorce when I was in my early 20's and I didn't do well with it and was not excited about either dad's girlfriend or mom's new boyfriend and would not be friendly to either. Immature? Not all 20 year olds can logically think, "I want Dad/Mom to be happy and XXX makes him happy." I got sick of the bad talking they did about each other too and pulled away from both of them.</p><p></p><p> Without knowing what is going on, it is really hard for us to know what you should do. Obviously, you don't want to say and that's ok. My best advice, without knowing the circumstances, is to give her all the space she needs because you can't force her to think differently. Cutting off her finances is your call. She's of adult age. I have no idea how much of her expenses you pay, if she's in college on your dime, if you still pay her cell phone etc. I don't know if she works. </p><p></p><p>It hurts, I know, but do what you know is best, NOT what makes YOU feel good. Depending on the circumstances of why she cut you off, she may be back next week.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 575472, member: 1550"] A lot of kids, even grown kids, don't like to see Dad or Mom living with New Honey. Now I don't know the circumstances of your divorce, but if you left, she may blame you. It is common for grown kids to take sides and then switch sides and then take sides again, especially if the divorce was not amicable. Again, without knowing why she is angry, it's hard to say. If you cheated on her mom...hey, what did you expect? If you made the decision to leave and then hooked up with this new women right away, it takes time to adjust. in my opinion it's best to leave the family out of your relationships for at least a year or until you are almost engaged. It's weird for even grown kids to see their parents dating and sleeping with somebody who is not their other parent. My parents went through a nasty divorce when I was in my early 20's and I didn't do well with it and was not excited about either dad's girlfriend or mom's new boyfriend and would not be friendly to either. Immature? Not all 20 year olds can logically think, "I want Dad/Mom to be happy and XXX makes him happy." I got sick of the bad talking they did about each other too and pulled away from both of them. Without knowing what is going on, it is really hard for us to know what you should do. Obviously, you don't want to say and that's ok. My best advice, without knowing the circumstances, is to give her all the space she needs because you can't force her to think differently. Cutting off her finances is your call. She's of adult age. I have no idea how much of her expenses you pay, if she's in college on your dime, if you still pay her cell phone etc. I don't know if she works. It hurts, I know, but do what you know is best, NOT what makes YOU feel good. Depending on the circumstances of why she cut you off, she may be back next week. [/QUOTE]
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