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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 575501" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Having an estranged child is not easy by a long shot......it's painful, there is anger, then of course because you love them regardless there is the worry. Having the estranged child be a stepchild makes it no less so when you've done the parenting for any number of years. </p><p></p><p>Katie has done it to me twice. First time I actually went through a grieving process. Then I learned to let it go. She was an adult. She had her own choices to make in life and if she couldn't see that I loved her as I did her siblings, well then, it was actually her loss. Second time stung, but I got over it faster nor did it effect me the same way. </p><p></p><p>How you react to the situation would depend on the circumstances as well as your relationship with your daughter (s). It could be she just needs some time to realize some things. Such as just because you divorced her father doesn't mean you don't still love her the same. (there is probably some doubt there and if she has anyone feeding the doubt it is making it worse) </p><p></p><p>I'd say that communication hasn't been completely cut off is a good sign. I'd keep the door open and give her time to realize whatever it is she needs to realize. However if you are entangled in her finances.......then I'd meet with her and decide what needs to be done there. I'd be hard pressed to help a child financially who did not behave as if they wanted a relationship with me. You don't get to have your cake and eat it too sort of thing. </p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 575501, member: 84"] Having an estranged child is not easy by a long shot......it's painful, there is anger, then of course because you love them regardless there is the worry. Having the estranged child be a stepchild makes it no less so when you've done the parenting for any number of years. Katie has done it to me twice. First time I actually went through a grieving process. Then I learned to let it go. She was an adult. She had her own choices to make in life and if she couldn't see that I loved her as I did her siblings, well then, it was actually her loss. Second time stung, but I got over it faster nor did it effect me the same way. How you react to the situation would depend on the circumstances as well as your relationship with your daughter (s). It could be she just needs some time to realize some things. Such as just because you divorced her father doesn't mean you don't still love her the same. (there is probably some doubt there and if she has anyone feeding the doubt it is making it worse) I'd say that communication hasn't been completely cut off is a good sign. I'd keep the door open and give her time to realize whatever it is she needs to realize. However if you are entangled in her finances.......then I'd meet with her and decide what needs to be done there. I'd be hard pressed to help a child financially who did not behave as if they wanted a relationship with me. You don't get to have your cake and eat it too sort of thing. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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