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<blockquote data-quote="trinityroyal" data-source="post: 330073" data-attributes="member: 3907"><p>Thanks everyone. You're all backing up my gut feeling about the situation.</p><p></p><p>I don't think sister in law is divorcing difficult child-brother. Honestly, if she were, she has a support system of her own and certainly doesn't need my help. Even if it turns out to be that, she's a big girl and can look after herself in that matter without any intervention from me.</p><p></p><p>As for poor Little easy child, they very nearly did succeed in taking him away from me. Due to difficult child-father's position in the community, and I suspect, his very deep pockets, he lined up a team of experts to counter the psychiatrist assessments I had done. The upshot is that Little easy child lives with me part time, with my difficult child-parents part time, and with ex-H part time. He has huge anxiety, nightmares about being kidnapped, and he begs me not to send him back to the others whenever I have to ship him out, but I have to comply with the court orders, much as I'd prefer not to. </p><p></p><p>My difficult child-mother still slips birthday cards and such for me into Little easy child's luggage when he comes back here from there. I usually shred them. </p><p></p><p>My family has a long history of pretending that everything's just fine, they're all upstanding citizens, etc. I wouldn't be surprised if sister in law thinks that difficult child-father was justified in his actions, or that enough time has passed that I must be "over it". Or maybe she thinks I'm like them in that I care more about what outsiders think than what family members do to each other. </p><p></p><p>For now, I think I'll just do nothing. If she keeps up the attempts at contact, I will write something like you suggested Witz. </p><p></p><p>I think the thing that upsets me most is that she's dredged up all sorts of horrible feelings and has succeeded in ruining my day. I feel like crawling into a hole and crying.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="trinityroyal, post: 330073, member: 3907"] Thanks everyone. You're all backing up my gut feeling about the situation. I don't think sister in law is divorcing difficult child-brother. Honestly, if she were, she has a support system of her own and certainly doesn't need my help. Even if it turns out to be that, she's a big girl and can look after herself in that matter without any intervention from me. As for poor Little easy child, they very nearly did succeed in taking him away from me. Due to difficult child-father's position in the community, and I suspect, his very deep pockets, he lined up a team of experts to counter the psychiatrist assessments I had done. The upshot is that Little easy child lives with me part time, with my difficult child-parents part time, and with ex-H part time. He has huge anxiety, nightmares about being kidnapped, and he begs me not to send him back to the others whenever I have to ship him out, but I have to comply with the court orders, much as I'd prefer not to. My difficult child-mother still slips birthday cards and such for me into Little easy child's luggage when he comes back here from there. I usually shred them. My family has a long history of pretending that everything's just fine, they're all upstanding citizens, etc. I wouldn't be surprised if sister in law thinks that difficult child-father was justified in his actions, or that enough time has passed that I must be "over it". Or maybe she thinks I'm like them in that I care more about what outsiders think than what family members do to each other. For now, I think I'll just do nothing. If she keeps up the attempts at contact, I will write something like you suggested Witz. I think the thing that upsets me most is that she's dredged up all sorts of horrible feelings and has succeeded in ruining my day. I feel like crawling into a hole and crying. [/QUOTE]
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