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<blockquote data-quote="svengandhi" data-source="post: 609225" data-attributes="member: 3493"><p>A week or so ago, I read of the death of the adult daughter (mid-20's) of a woman I know. The daughter was a difficult child in her teens but had ultimately graduated from college and apparently married, since the obit had a hyphenated last name. The mother is not very well liked in town and can be quite overbearing. Although I'm not terribly fond of her, I have never personally had any problems with her and we have always interacted courteously at school functions; her middle child and my oldest were in the same grade. Anyway, it was Back to School night and I saw her at the school when I came in. She was talking to somebody and I didn't approach her. A few minutes later, she passed me in a hallway. Nobody else was there. She asked me what time the program began. I told her and then said "I'm so sorry about..." and she said "I really can't talk about it now." I truly didn't want to talk about it. The obit gave no cause of death, which in these parts generally means drug-related, AND it was pulled from the online paper after just a couple of hours, and even if there had been something listed, I wasn't about to chat her up about it. I just wanted to convey my sorrow as one mother to another over her loss, particularly since I knew the young woman. I feel badly now, like I upset her, although rationally it's hard to imagine that she could be thinking of much else but her daughter's death. I felt compelled to extend condolences since she spoke to me; otherwise, I would never have said anything at this point.</p><p></p><p>The last thing I wanted to do was upset her. Did I do wrong by giving a condolence?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="svengandhi, post: 609225, member: 3493"] A week or so ago, I read of the death of the adult daughter (mid-20's) of a woman I know. The daughter was a difficult child in her teens but had ultimately graduated from college and apparently married, since the obit had a hyphenated last name. The mother is not very well liked in town and can be quite overbearing. Although I'm not terribly fond of her, I have never personally had any problems with her and we have always interacted courteously at school functions; her middle child and my oldest were in the same grade. Anyway, it was Back to School night and I saw her at the school when I came in. She was talking to somebody and I didn't approach her. A few minutes later, she passed me in a hallway. Nobody else was there. She asked me what time the program began. I told her and then said "I'm so sorry about..." and she said "I really can't talk about it now." I truly didn't want to talk about it. The obit gave no cause of death, which in these parts generally means drug-related, AND it was pulled from the online paper after just a couple of hours, and even if there had been something listed, I wasn't about to chat her up about it. I just wanted to convey my sorrow as one mother to another over her loss, particularly since I knew the young woman. I feel badly now, like I upset her, although rationally it's hard to imagine that she could be thinking of much else but her daughter's death. I felt compelled to extend condolences since she spoke to me; otherwise, I would never have said anything at this point. The last thing I wanted to do was upset her. Did I do wrong by giving a condolence? [/QUOTE]
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