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<blockquote data-quote="Nikimoto" data-source="post: 650139" data-attributes="member: 18791"><p>Cops "knew" us, our address and names by the time our E moved out. It was embarrassing since I used to be a cop...sigh...but then again, no need to feel afraid to call for backup even as parents. Before E was even 18, after a heated exchange with his deranged principal over paying for AP exams which he had F's and such in his classes, I moved E out of his prior bedroom into the rather large entryway so as to stifle his traffic and therefore attitude through our home. We have 2 younger kids to protect from his raging and theft, so things became drastic. Also, taking the kids needs into account inspired my new use for the bedroom...it is now the toy and disney movie room, complete with our old couch. Not a bedroom anymore, and he is fully aware due to prior exchanges he is no longer welcome on the property. He turned 18 last month, and decided to disown me, so that is his bridge to rebuild.</p><p>You said her old room is all the more she is getting for herself and Z until she goes to work and rents herself an apartment, that is the best answer. You do not exist to make her life comfortable in her irresponsibility. I hope the best for your grandchild, but it is ultimately her job as his mother to want that for him. I can't even fathom grandkids and the horror if my E had any. I sort of wish I had Empirical Domain over my DNA, and could refuse to allow him to procreate. Gray reas....</p><p>Put your pursuit of happiness first, and make sure she knows her issues are not your priorities. One thing I have told my kids is that I will never bail them from jail, not even once. The enabling can be addictive. No lawyers, no free rent, I have them all they need and they don't appreciate it, so we are done for now. I have things to do which don't involve them. Things to do with my little kids, things in my free time. It sets a good example even if they try to guilt you on their stuff. Ask her to keep her head on and grow up? She can apply for gobs of public assistance, even childcare and go to work! She has it going on right now, you don't have to get anything going for her.</p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nikimoto, post: 650139, member: 18791"] Cops "knew" us, our address and names by the time our E moved out. It was embarrassing since I used to be a cop...sigh...but then again, no need to feel afraid to call for backup even as parents. Before E was even 18, after a heated exchange with his deranged principal over paying for AP exams which he had F's and such in his classes, I moved E out of his prior bedroom into the rather large entryway so as to stifle his traffic and therefore attitude through our home. We have 2 younger kids to protect from his raging and theft, so things became drastic. Also, taking the kids needs into account inspired my new use for the bedroom...it is now the toy and disney movie room, complete with our old couch. Not a bedroom anymore, and he is fully aware due to prior exchanges he is no longer welcome on the property. He turned 18 last month, and decided to disown me, so that is his bridge to rebuild. You said her old room is all the more she is getting for herself and Z until she goes to work and rents herself an apartment, that is the best answer. You do not exist to make her life comfortable in her irresponsibility. I hope the best for your grandchild, but it is ultimately her job as his mother to want that for him. I can't even fathom grandkids and the horror if my E had any. I sort of wish I had Empirical Domain over my DNA, and could refuse to allow him to procreate. Gray reas.... Put your pursuit of happiness first, and make sure she knows her issues are not your priorities. One thing I have told my kids is that I will never bail them from jail, not even once. The enabling can be addictive. No lawyers, no free rent, I have them all they need and they don't appreciate it, so we are done for now. I have things to do which don't involve them. Things to do with my little kids, things in my free time. It sets a good example even if they try to guilt you on their stuff. Ask her to keep her head on and grow up? She can apply for gobs of public assistance, even childcare and go to work! She has it going on right now, you don't have to get anything going for her. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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