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Ever had evaluators misinterpret what they see in a difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 143645" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>I am thinking.....and I think best out loud....</p><p>I know when we had tons of services---like respite and in home tdocs and in home behav mod and a bazillion other things going on here---it felt- intrusive. We felt like slides under a microscope- like fish in a bowl, like animals in a cage----we felt like people were just scrutinizing us and analyzing us and critiqueing every breathe we took. We were constantly being asked to tell what we were thinking, why we were doing what we were doing etc- to the extreme. </p><p>SOmetimes I think our kids grow to resent haveing to explain, jsutify, reason out everything they do. Even if it how they walk, or how they speak etc. They do know others, their peers, do not have to explain things over and over and over day after day to such a myriad group of professionals. I bet it is so hard to have people piciking apart how you say your words, how you behave when you need to go potty, as if it is a big neon sign pointing at you saying YOU ARE NOT DOING THIS NORMAL THING RIGHT..while all around them the rest of the world does these very same things without a thought at all. </p><p></p><p>I would not be at all surprised for kids to resent it, resent the time, resent the inspection, the intrusion, the focus.....the critiques.....</p><p>and I sure would not be surprised for MANY kids to decide to mess around and skew the whole thing on purpose- to see if anyone notices, to see if it alters the results in some amuseing way, or to test the professional. </p><p></p><p>ANd if the kid is able to "fool" the professional, I think the kids get a fat head and a little boost to their ego-----and feel as if well, humph I am smarter than THAT person.....</p><p>I know my son has said dureing IQ tests etc, why are you asking me, dont YOU know? If you don't know YOU need to go learn and if you DO know, then why are you asking me? Why do I have to prove myself to YOU? Why are we spending valuable life time sitting here doing this? (YIKES, my son) </p><p>And if a professional does not even have a clue this is going on? I discredit the results, anyway, cuz how can the professionals results be valid if a kid can fool him, and how can he properly administer an evaluation if he does not have the proper rapport with the kid to find out what is going on? AND if the professional decides to be PO'ed at the kid over such a thing, well, then I am not sure the professional would have the appropriate objectivity when evaluating the evaluation. </p><p></p><p>(did any of that make sense?)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 143645, member: 1697"] I am thinking.....and I think best out loud.... I know when we had tons of services---like respite and in home tdocs and in home behav mod and a bazillion other things going on here---it felt- intrusive. We felt like slides under a microscope- like fish in a bowl, like animals in a cage----we felt like people were just scrutinizing us and analyzing us and critiqueing every breathe we took. We were constantly being asked to tell what we were thinking, why we were doing what we were doing etc- to the extreme. SOmetimes I think our kids grow to resent haveing to explain, jsutify, reason out everything they do. Even if it how they walk, or how they speak etc. They do know others, their peers, do not have to explain things over and over and over day after day to such a myriad group of professionals. I bet it is so hard to have people piciking apart how you say your words, how you behave when you need to go potty, as if it is a big neon sign pointing at you saying YOU ARE NOT DOING THIS NORMAL THING RIGHT..while all around them the rest of the world does these very same things without a thought at all. I would not be at all surprised for kids to resent it, resent the time, resent the inspection, the intrusion, the focus.....the critiques..... and I sure would not be surprised for MANY kids to decide to mess around and skew the whole thing on purpose- to see if anyone notices, to see if it alters the results in some amuseing way, or to test the professional. ANd if the kid is able to "fool" the professional, I think the kids get a fat head and a little boost to their ego-----and feel as if well, humph I am smarter than THAT person..... I know my son has said dureing IQ tests etc, why are you asking me, dont YOU know? If you don't know YOU need to go learn and if you DO know, then why are you asking me? Why do I have to prove myself to YOU? Why are we spending valuable life time sitting here doing this? (YIKES, my son) And if a professional does not even have a clue this is going on? I discredit the results, anyway, cuz how can the professionals results be valid if a kid can fool him, and how can he properly administer an evaluation if he does not have the proper rapport with the kid to find out what is going on? AND if the professional decides to be PO'ed at the kid over such a thing, well, then I am not sure the professional would have the appropriate objectivity when evaluating the evaluation. (did any of that make sense?) [/QUOTE]
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