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EVERYTHING is a battle - I am TIRED!
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<blockquote data-quote="HaoZi" data-source="post: 581088" data-attributes="member: 15793"><p>Mine decided she didn't want to do girl scouts anymore one meeting after I'd paid for the year and all her new stuff. I wasn't happy but it wasn't a battle I was going to fight. Showers or baths? Oy vey! We have a reward system and I'm lucky if she earns it other day - every third day is more likely. She stays hygienic (uses wipes instead of toilet paper, uses deodorant, is lucky she doesn't have body odor, etc.) and I'm hoping that she'll one day soon learn to wash her own hair. Or at least show interest in learning to wash her own hair.</p><p></p><p>Going to bed is often a battle. Getting up is almost always a battle. </p><p></p><p>Her IEP specifies that her homework load is 50% that of her peers. She's also in a special class during school that helps her complete her homework so less comes home. If she doesn't do it at home? Hey... not my grade. I stopped fighting that battle, too. If she has to repeat because she didn't help herself, so be it. I offer my help if she needs it, and she refuses me. She's refused help at school, too. If she won't help herself, no one else can force help on her. The classes she's currently failing are due to her not doing classwork rather than not doing homework. </p><p></p><p>Mine also won't brush her teeth. I bought her the Crest Pro-Rinse with fluoride to at least get her to do <em>something</em>. I really wish she'd do more - she has 6 baby teeth with no permanent teeth behind them and she's on medications that can wreck havoc on her teeth. Every tooth that can be sealed has been, but that only helps so much. I'm so glad she drinks water and not soda.</p><p></p><p>Hair brushing? Pffffft. Rarely happens. She has shown no inclination to learn how to do that, either. I condition the koi out of her hair when I wash it and she's lucky it usually just falls into place, because that's another battle I no longer engage in. Used to it, with a bottle of detangler and gentle brush and little miss tender-head would scream at every little knot. Nope, done with that. It's purely cosmetic, has nothing to do with how sanitary she is, so I'm done. If she doesn't care about it, I don't either. I have a friend cut her hair to a manageable length and make sure it stays clean and lice-free, and there ends my fight with her hair.</p><p></p><p>We still have plenty of battles, and I know how wearing it is, but I'm learning to pick my battles (and learning and learning). I know there will be more in the future as she heads into her teens (oh yay... *headdesk*) but sometimes you just have to let some things go in order to save yourself for the more important fights (and your own sanity).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HaoZi, post: 581088, member: 15793"] Mine decided she didn't want to do girl scouts anymore one meeting after I'd paid for the year and all her new stuff. I wasn't happy but it wasn't a battle I was going to fight. Showers or baths? Oy vey! We have a reward system and I'm lucky if she earns it other day - every third day is more likely. She stays hygienic (uses wipes instead of toilet paper, uses deodorant, is lucky she doesn't have body odor, etc.) and I'm hoping that she'll one day soon learn to wash her own hair. Or at least show interest in learning to wash her own hair. Going to bed is often a battle. Getting up is almost always a battle. Her IEP specifies that her homework load is 50% that of her peers. She's also in a special class during school that helps her complete her homework so less comes home. If she doesn't do it at home? Hey... not my grade. I stopped fighting that battle, too. If she has to repeat because she didn't help herself, so be it. I offer my help if she needs it, and she refuses me. She's refused help at school, too. If she won't help herself, no one else can force help on her. The classes she's currently failing are due to her not doing classwork rather than not doing homework. Mine also won't brush her teeth. I bought her the Crest Pro-Rinse with fluoride to at least get her to do [I]something[/I]. I really wish she'd do more - she has 6 baby teeth with no permanent teeth behind them and she's on medications that can wreck havoc on her teeth. Every tooth that can be sealed has been, but that only helps so much. I'm so glad she drinks water and not soda. Hair brushing? Pffffft. Rarely happens. She has shown no inclination to learn how to do that, either. I condition the koi out of her hair when I wash it and she's lucky it usually just falls into place, because that's another battle I no longer engage in. Used to it, with a bottle of detangler and gentle brush and little miss tender-head would scream at every little knot. Nope, done with that. It's purely cosmetic, has nothing to do with how sanitary she is, so I'm done. If she doesn't care about it, I don't either. I have a friend cut her hair to a manageable length and make sure it stays clean and lice-free, and there ends my fight with her hair. We still have plenty of battles, and I know how wearing it is, but I'm learning to pick my battles (and learning and learning). I know there will be more in the future as she heads into her teens (oh yay... *headdesk*) but sometimes you just have to let some things go in order to save yourself for the more important fights (and your own sanity). [/QUOTE]
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