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Everywhere I look, I see relapses; how not to worry too much?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 549360" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Thank you everyone, you are more than helpful. I will try to get that Conyers's book to my hands.</p><p></p><p>And you are right InsaneCdn, we indeed tend to hear about people who crash and burn and those who are able to make it, tend to remind more silent about it. But of course there are very inspiring stories you hear at times. For example one very highly thought surgeon (considered one of the best knee surgeons around here) who fixed my knee, and did an awesome job in it, is an ex-con (spent several years in and out of prison for joyridings, other crimes etc.), was alcoholic (started before he even hit his teens) and graduated from High School when he was 26 and in prison. Has done very nicely for himself after that. And really is one of the leading experts in this area when it comes to knees, shoulders and (sport related) injuries in them. But yeah, mostly those keep their stories on themselves and you just hear the sad ones.</p><p></p><p>AG, treatment program my difficult child follows strongly emphasizes relapses more as learning opportunities and not something that would throw you back to start. They for example don't really encourage to count sober days and certainly not to start again from zero after slip or relapse. It's seen more as a process and slips and relapses are expected and an emphasize is on how to deal and learn from them and move forward and handle the same situation better next time. That is also a mind frame I try to keep. For my difficult child gambling was in many ways a coping mechanism, now he is trying to learn better ones. Gambling wasn't working well for him in long term (doesn't that sound very nice and clean way to say, that it turned him lying, stealing, shamming, selling his dreams, his honour and all his positive relationships, no sleeping, compulsively gambling, angry, disgracing shell of the person?) and now he is looking for better options to deal with same fundamental issues he has.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Recoveringenabler, Thank You so much! You post made me tear up. You really hit the nail with this and I appreciate it more than I can describe. And you are right, it is something I have to learn out of. To learn better ways to react, to take care of myself and not let these things to define me. </p><p></p><p>I do admire a journey you have done even in the relatively short time you have posted here (I was a long time lurker before I signed up, I have read you posts from the time you did sign up.) It is amazing and I do hope I can get to that place some day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 549360, member: 14557"] Thank you everyone, you are more than helpful. I will try to get that Conyers's book to my hands. And you are right InsaneCdn, we indeed tend to hear about people who crash and burn and those who are able to make it, tend to remind more silent about it. But of course there are very inspiring stories you hear at times. For example one very highly thought surgeon (considered one of the best knee surgeons around here) who fixed my knee, and did an awesome job in it, is an ex-con (spent several years in and out of prison for joyridings, other crimes etc.), was alcoholic (started before he even hit his teens) and graduated from High School when he was 26 and in prison. Has done very nicely for himself after that. And really is one of the leading experts in this area when it comes to knees, shoulders and (sport related) injuries in them. But yeah, mostly those keep their stories on themselves and you just hear the sad ones. AG, treatment program my difficult child follows strongly emphasizes relapses more as learning opportunities and not something that would throw you back to start. They for example don't really encourage to count sober days and certainly not to start again from zero after slip or relapse. It's seen more as a process and slips and relapses are expected and an emphasize is on how to deal and learn from them and move forward and handle the same situation better next time. That is also a mind frame I try to keep. For my difficult child gambling was in many ways a coping mechanism, now he is trying to learn better ones. Gambling wasn't working well for him in long term (doesn't that sound very nice and clean way to say, that it turned him lying, stealing, shamming, selling his dreams, his honour and all his positive relationships, no sleeping, compulsively gambling, angry, disgracing shell of the person?) and now he is looking for better options to deal with same fundamental issues he has. Recoveringenabler, Thank You so much! You post made me tear up. You really hit the nail with this and I appreciate it more than I can describe. And you are right, it is something I have to learn out of. To learn better ways to react, to take care of myself and not let these things to define me. I do admire a journey you have done even in the relatively short time you have posted here (I was a long time lurker before I signed up, I have read you posts from the time you did sign up.) It is amazing and I do hope I can get to that place some day. [/QUOTE]
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