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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 759818" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I have an addict too and life happens. For all of us. Surprising connections we don't like can happen. Losing jobs, bad weather, COVID, breakups, all sorts of unexpecteds happen to all of us.</p><p></p><p>Our disturbed adult children do not go with the.flow as well as others do. Yet this is part of life and we can't shield them from these stressors. And yes these unwanted stresses can cause them to act badly but they can't be stopped. It is up to them, not us, to seek extra therapy during hard times if they want to truly stay sober I wish we had magical powers to eliminate their stressors while they get on track but life just doesn't do that.for anybody.</p><p></p><p>What we can do is not take their stressors.on.ourselves and stay in the now. When our mind tells us horrible stories about what MAY happen, we hurt ourselves and don't help our loved ones if we take it as gospel. Don't let that mean girl on your head tell you horror stories. I'm sure she is usually wrong. I am working hard.on doing all I can to ignore my ego. That's the.mean girl. Our egos. Also whatever she wants or needs from him is her problem, not yours. I am getting good at ignoring stuff. No reason to read it. For what? To upset yourself!</p><p></p><p>You have no reason.to.read ex's text and I wouldn't tell your son about it. She will contact him if she is determined to but she might not. Let them figure this out. You are.not a part of their relationship. They are adults. And she may have just liked you and wanted to check in. No guarantee that this is about your son. Don't predict the future.</p><p></p><p>I hope this helped. Sending love and prayers. Stay in peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 759818, member: 23706"] I have an addict too and life happens. For all of us. Surprising connections we don't like can happen. Losing jobs, bad weather, COVID, breakups, all sorts of unexpecteds happen to all of us. Our disturbed adult children do not go with the.flow as well as others do. Yet this is part of life and we can't shield them from these stressors. And yes these unwanted stresses can cause them to act badly but they can't be stopped. It is up to them, not us, to seek extra therapy during hard times if they want to truly stay sober I wish we had magical powers to eliminate their stressors while they get on track but life just doesn't do that.for anybody. What we can do is not take their stressors.on.ourselves and stay in the now. When our mind tells us horrible stories about what MAY happen, we hurt ourselves and don't help our loved ones if we take it as gospel. Don't let that mean girl on your head tell you horror stories. I'm sure she is usually wrong. I am working hard.on doing all I can to ignore my ego. That's the.mean girl. Our egos. Also whatever she wants or needs from him is her problem, not yours. I am getting good at ignoring stuff. No reason to read it. For what? To upset yourself! You have no reason.to.read ex's text and I wouldn't tell your son about it. She will contact him if she is determined to but she might not. Let them figure this out. You are.not a part of their relationship. They are adults. And she may have just liked you and wanted to check in. No guarantee that this is about your son. Don't predict the future. I hope this helped. Sending love and prayers. Stay in peace. [/QUOTE]
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