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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 446205" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>LMS.....I got the picture, sigh, looks like a mess. Im so sorry for the wife and kids. I cannot imagine my partner and father of my children doing that to me/them. I do believe that would be a deal breaker for me. </p><p></p><p>I know how difficult this is going to be on you. I really do. I feel for your son too. I dont want any of our kids to go through this. It really tugs at me. I am sure you think I have been a bit hard on him but my heart does ache for him. </p><p></p><p>I find your description of your husband and his relationship with young difficult child to be interesting. Much the same thing happened with Cory and his dad except Tony really tried hard to work with Cory when he was younger. He was there as much as he could be but Jamie was the definite favorite because he was just easier and did what was expected of him. He always has. Cory has lived in his shadow. Tony also tried to work Cory for years after he became an adult and Cory ruined it time and again. He acted the fool on many jobs. Cussed his dad out and basically acted like he didnt have to listen to him at all. It wasnt pretty. Finally, just finally, Tony has given him one last shot and Cory seems like he has learned his lesson but he better not blow it again. Tony wants so much for Cory to do well. He wants to be proud of him but its really on Cory's shoulders and not ours now. I think in our case, Cory understands that now. </p><p></p><p>Hopefully one day your son will get to the point that he understands these things. It has to come after a long period when you step back and he learns that you wont put up with his shenanigans. It is so hard. I always identified more with Cory too. Probably much to his detriment. I still love him dearly and want to do things for him but now he is starting to pull away and doesnt want much from me even when I want to do things for him which feels really odd to me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 446205, member: 1514"] LMS.....I got the picture, sigh, looks like a mess. Im so sorry for the wife and kids. I cannot imagine my partner and father of my children doing that to me/them. I do believe that would be a deal breaker for me. I know how difficult this is going to be on you. I really do. I feel for your son too. I dont want any of our kids to go through this. It really tugs at me. I am sure you think I have been a bit hard on him but my heart does ache for him. I find your description of your husband and his relationship with young difficult child to be interesting. Much the same thing happened with Cory and his dad except Tony really tried hard to work with Cory when he was younger. He was there as much as he could be but Jamie was the definite favorite because he was just easier and did what was expected of him. He always has. Cory has lived in his shadow. Tony also tried to work Cory for years after he became an adult and Cory ruined it time and again. He acted the fool on many jobs. Cussed his dad out and basically acted like he didnt have to listen to him at all. It wasnt pretty. Finally, just finally, Tony has given him one last shot and Cory seems like he has learned his lesson but he better not blow it again. Tony wants so much for Cory to do well. He wants to be proud of him but its really on Cory's shoulders and not ours now. I think in our case, Cory understands that now. Hopefully one day your son will get to the point that he understands these things. It has to come after a long period when you step back and he learns that you wont put up with his shenanigans. It is so hard. I always identified more with Cory too. Probably much to his detriment. I still love him dearly and want to do things for him but now he is starting to pull away and doesnt want much from me even when I want to do things for him which feels really odd to me. [/QUOTE]
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