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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 390840" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>The long-term illness sounds like what difficult child 3 went through a few years ago. it turned out to be extreme anxiety. He's doing better now - he did better back then when we stopped mainstream schooling (a major trigger for his anxiety) and then this year, just a few months ago, he's been started on anti-anxiety medications. Plus we've been doing therapy and CBT with him for a few years now. I also had him to a therapist back when the anxiety first became such a problem for school (he missed six months out of his school year, spread over the year) and that therapist wouldn't really advise, which is what we needed. In some ways he could be useful now (being closer) but the current therapist will at least suggest things to difficult child 3, will work out problems and solutions with him. Plus I am in there with him, so I can follow through.</p><p></p><p>I would be worried about what step-sister has said. Ex-brother in law's daughter is ripe for exploitation by creeps like this alleged boy; she's had years of feeling unloved and unwanted, and can't see that she would be simply another customer and possibly eventually money-maker for this guy. Time to change schools possibly. Certainly time to change households if it can be done, and then bend over backwards to involve her. Take her away on weekend trips. Every weekend for a month. Keep her away from being able to contact this boy on the weekends for a month, by doing family fun things together, out of the home. And yes, revisit the medications. Do a drug test also, in case "something else has accidentally slipped in there" because some creeps will slip things into a girl's drink... yeah right, I know, but that can be the tack to take with her when she objects. Just to make sure she only has her medications on board, and not something nastier. I got slipped hash brownies at work once; my work colleagues thought it would be funny. I was offered a couple of home-made biscuits and not told what was in them. Just offered a biscuit with my coffee... and it was darn good ***& too, I gather. It took me three days to climb down from the ceiling...</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 390840, member: 1991"] The long-term illness sounds like what difficult child 3 went through a few years ago. it turned out to be extreme anxiety. He's doing better now - he did better back then when we stopped mainstream schooling (a major trigger for his anxiety) and then this year, just a few months ago, he's been started on anti-anxiety medications. Plus we've been doing therapy and CBT with him for a few years now. I also had him to a therapist back when the anxiety first became such a problem for school (he missed six months out of his school year, spread over the year) and that therapist wouldn't really advise, which is what we needed. In some ways he could be useful now (being closer) but the current therapist will at least suggest things to difficult child 3, will work out problems and solutions with him. Plus I am in there with him, so I can follow through. I would be worried about what step-sister has said. Ex-brother in law's daughter is ripe for exploitation by creeps like this alleged boy; she's had years of feeling unloved and unwanted, and can't see that she would be simply another customer and possibly eventually money-maker for this guy. Time to change schools possibly. Certainly time to change households if it can be done, and then bend over backwards to involve her. Take her away on weekend trips. Every weekend for a month. Keep her away from being able to contact this boy on the weekends for a month, by doing family fun things together, out of the home. And yes, revisit the medications. Do a drug test also, in case "something else has accidentally slipped in there" because some creeps will slip things into a girl's drink... yeah right, I know, but that can be the tack to take with her when she objects. Just to make sure she only has her medications on board, and not something nastier. I got slipped hash brownies at work once; my work colleagues thought it would be funny. I was offered a couple of home-made biscuits and not told what was in them. Just offered a biscuit with my coffee... and it was darn good ***& too, I gather. It took me three days to climb down from the ceiling... Marg [/QUOTE]
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