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Well, a picture says a thousand words I guess.... I don't think anyone expected the big color pics I brought to be so horrible looking. I think they also didn't expect to hear that the doctor said he can't go to school. I was super strong until the very end when everyone said tell Q we are thinking of him and really do care about him and you and the advocate said that is the saddest part of this whole thing, a functioning team was destroyed... and I started bawling...had to turn around and compose myself.. only a few minutes but I pulled it together and pushed on.
They went through the incident....Nothing made sense and it was clear they knew they had an issue no matter how much they wanted to pin it on Q they couldn't. I showed them how Q told the doctor and mr sp ed admin confirmed that Q received tylenol afterwards for a sore wrist. I saw the Special Education directors face smush up when she heard that...
It was painful to talk about. They said, we are not at liberty to tell you what will happen but you need to know that this is not being ignored and it is being addressed.
Our psychiatric was a rock star. She asked over and over if the tone of the IEp meetings was as the law advocate said since she feels she is biased.... I said it was like nothing I have experienced in my career. Not as a professional and not as a parent. The home coordinator admitted that after his second meeting there he told the advocate (I wasn't there) that he was sure Q would be out of that school very soon. then home psychiatric spoke...he is a gentle giant. He said that prior to the principal being there, there was a spirit of cooperation and problem solving. Even recently there was a meeting where people tried to say what they thought had gone better and right and at the end of even that meeting the principal's attitude was well did he ever cross to the other sides of the lockers...he kept saying he had no idea why that was even an issue... anyone can go anywhere and he was never told he can't walk around the school like anyone else... he was just trying to make a big stink. (no classes on the other sides of the lockers anyway...so dumb) he said principal had no intention of problem solving and just wanted to list problems that he woudl not tolerate. Sp ed coordinator said, yeah but I told him it would need to be an IEP process and decision and I said, no one even heard you and he certainly didn't... it was a small statement at the end of an hour of ranting and raving and pointing fingers and raised voice to me etc. I think home psychiatric's words carried a lot of weight.
I have a state restraint form to fill out. Makes me ill that I have to do that. But I am going to of course. It is just that it makes the seriousness of it so real.
So we discussed what I wanted. they had a whole thing written up about why they thought SUN2 was such a good choice. I then explained what was missing from the list....why it was NOT a good choice (the cons). I said it is not that I dont agree with the pros, but I am torn about the cons. It is a limited school in many ways and it has a load of risks. I said we know Q learns best in functional environments when he is out in the community or in an activity. He needs to learn skills that will allow him to go places and do things that are productive. I talked about part time at SUN and they even talked about early admission to the high school to work on having less transitions. At the high school they have more options for Special Education not just Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), because he really could benefit from some of the Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) classes as long as the teachers use Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) accommodations. I have said that before but their class was large and some of the kids were super high needs too. We talked about his horse back riding and other therapies.... He will have home bound starting Monday till we figure out a new plan. I discussed his para, the need for specific people we discussed how the program was derailed from the beginning and now there is no way to know if he can be ok....
Oh, I will have to finish later... Q needs some help... He can't stop talking.. he is so anxious.
They went through the incident....Nothing made sense and it was clear they knew they had an issue no matter how much they wanted to pin it on Q they couldn't. I showed them how Q told the doctor and mr sp ed admin confirmed that Q received tylenol afterwards for a sore wrist. I saw the Special Education directors face smush up when she heard that...
It was painful to talk about. They said, we are not at liberty to tell you what will happen but you need to know that this is not being ignored and it is being addressed.
Our psychiatric was a rock star. She asked over and over if the tone of the IEp meetings was as the law advocate said since she feels she is biased.... I said it was like nothing I have experienced in my career. Not as a professional and not as a parent. The home coordinator admitted that after his second meeting there he told the advocate (I wasn't there) that he was sure Q would be out of that school very soon. then home psychiatric spoke...he is a gentle giant. He said that prior to the principal being there, there was a spirit of cooperation and problem solving. Even recently there was a meeting where people tried to say what they thought had gone better and right and at the end of even that meeting the principal's attitude was well did he ever cross to the other sides of the lockers...he kept saying he had no idea why that was even an issue... anyone can go anywhere and he was never told he can't walk around the school like anyone else... he was just trying to make a big stink. (no classes on the other sides of the lockers anyway...so dumb) he said principal had no intention of problem solving and just wanted to list problems that he woudl not tolerate. Sp ed coordinator said, yeah but I told him it would need to be an IEP process and decision and I said, no one even heard you and he certainly didn't... it was a small statement at the end of an hour of ranting and raving and pointing fingers and raised voice to me etc. I think home psychiatric's words carried a lot of weight.
I have a state restraint form to fill out. Makes me ill that I have to do that. But I am going to of course. It is just that it makes the seriousness of it so real.
So we discussed what I wanted. they had a whole thing written up about why they thought SUN2 was such a good choice. I then explained what was missing from the list....why it was NOT a good choice (the cons). I said it is not that I dont agree with the pros, but I am torn about the cons. It is a limited school in many ways and it has a load of risks. I said we know Q learns best in functional environments when he is out in the community or in an activity. He needs to learn skills that will allow him to go places and do things that are productive. I talked about part time at SUN and they even talked about early admission to the high school to work on having less transitions. At the high school they have more options for Special Education not just Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), because he really could benefit from some of the Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) classes as long as the teachers use Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) accommodations. I have said that before but their class was large and some of the kids were super high needs too. We talked about his horse back riding and other therapies.... He will have home bound starting Monday till we figure out a new plan. I discussed his para, the need for specific people we discussed how the program was derailed from the beginning and now there is no way to know if he can be ok....
Oh, I will have to finish later... Q needs some help... He can't stop talking.. he is so anxious.
... Nothing to add right now, just continuing to pray for you and Q... Many hugs... SFR
