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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 215855" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>Yes, he has been to 3 pediatric psychiatrists in the last 18-24 months, and has had every personality, intelligence, and psychiatric test known to mankind. Truly. This has cost THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS of dollars, just the testing and diagnosis-ing--not including the school, the therapy, the legal fees, the replacing of things.</p><p> </p><p>psychiatrist 1 said, he's fine, maybe a smidge anxious, but that's understandable. psychiatrist 2 said, what's the matter with you people, why do you want him on drugs (it was unpleasant). psychiatrist 3 said he was reluctant to put him on drugs because once 'these kids' go on these drugs they never go off and they are very powerful.</p><p> </p><p>The fact is this child is not socially disruptive, doesn't have tantrums and does very well academically. It looks on the surface that his problems are not interferring with his life. So why risk lawsuits or whatever by putting him experimentally on drugs.</p><p> </p><p>Also this boy has been therapied and counselled and tested and interviewed so many times he knows exactly what to say. He throws out psychiatric terms such as informing the therapist a couple years ago that he wants more 'positive reinforcement'. He goes in and makes it seem as though he can control what he does if only his parents would let him play more video games, let him go to Universal with a friend, give him a big party. He also sneaks around and listens when his father and I discuss his latest diagnosis; for a while he was searching in our room secretly, and when caught, he said he was in our room looking for his latest evaluation. </p><p> </p><p>He seems to have a mild form of paranoia (people are taking my things to get me in trouble); on the other hand it may just be manipulative. </p><p> </p><p>It might be time for another psychiatrist testing. Recently he told us his proof that he wasn't doing any of these things: they only happened when me and my bio kids were there: when the four of us went away on vacation, stepson never got into any trouble. See, proof!</p><p> </p><p>However, there has never been an occasion where we went on vacation and left him and his dad home alone. Never. He swears there was. Just as he swears he saw me thru the wall taking his homework (which he now concedes he 'dreamed'). We don't know if he's hallucinating, stubbornly lying, or starts off lying and then after a few months of telling the same lie starts to believe it.</p><p> </p><p>When he's caught in a bold face lie, like lying to the judge, he covers it up by saying he thought something else was meant, or sticks to the lie, or just stares at you saying nothing, not blinking, just staring.</p><p> </p><p>No body knows and his manages to stay just above the borderline of mental illness. Is he desperately paddling water to keep his head above mental illness he knows he has and to throw people off the scent? Or is he being manipulative and difficult and will not give up his behaviors until his price is met: domination of the family?</p><p> </p><p>No one knows. He's meeting benchmarks, managing, impressing adults. If he had temper tantrums it'd be so much easier.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 215855, member: 5169"] Yes, he has been to 3 pediatric psychiatrists in the last 18-24 months, and has had every personality, intelligence, and psychiatric test known to mankind. Truly. This has cost THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS of dollars, just the testing and diagnosis-ing--not including the school, the therapy, the legal fees, the replacing of things. psychiatrist 1 said, he's fine, maybe a smidge anxious, but that's understandable. psychiatrist 2 said, what's the matter with you people, why do you want him on drugs (it was unpleasant). psychiatrist 3 said he was reluctant to put him on drugs because once 'these kids' go on these drugs they never go off and they are very powerful. The fact is this child is not socially disruptive, doesn't have tantrums and does very well academically. It looks on the surface that his problems are not interferring with his life. So why risk lawsuits or whatever by putting him experimentally on drugs. Also this boy has been therapied and counselled and tested and interviewed so many times he knows exactly what to say. He throws out psychiatric terms such as informing the therapist a couple years ago that he wants more 'positive reinforcement'. He goes in and makes it seem as though he can control what he does if only his parents would let him play more video games, let him go to Universal with a friend, give him a big party. He also sneaks around and listens when his father and I discuss his latest diagnosis; for a while he was searching in our room secretly, and when caught, he said he was in our room looking for his latest evaluation. He seems to have a mild form of paranoia (people are taking my things to get me in trouble); on the other hand it may just be manipulative. It might be time for another psychiatrist testing. Recently he told us his proof that he wasn't doing any of these things: they only happened when me and my bio kids were there: when the four of us went away on vacation, stepson never got into any trouble. See, proof! However, there has never been an occasion where we went on vacation and left him and his dad home alone. Never. He swears there was. Just as he swears he saw me thru the wall taking his homework (which he now concedes he 'dreamed'). We don't know if he's hallucinating, stubbornly lying, or starts off lying and then after a few months of telling the same lie starts to believe it. When he's caught in a bold face lie, like lying to the judge, he covers it up by saying he thought something else was meant, or sticks to the lie, or just stares at you saying nothing, not blinking, just staring. No body knows and his manages to stay just above the borderline of mental illness. Is he desperately paddling water to keep his head above mental illness he knows he has and to throw people off the scent? Or is he being manipulative and difficult and will not give up his behaviors until his price is met: domination of the family? No one knows. He's meeting benchmarks, managing, impressing adults. If he had temper tantrums it'd be so much easier. [/QUOTE]
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