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<blockquote data-quote="WSM" data-source="post: 215939" data-attributes="member: 5169"><p>Actually stepson makes it very clear that he is not dangerous. Whenever the issue of him taking one gun, two knives, and a razor blade to school on 4 separate occasions comes up, he points out very calmly, "I didn't threaten anyone". As if it was all right as long as he wasn't threatening anyone.</p><p> </p><p>He's a victim. But he's never been bullied or been accused of bullying, but he likes to play that he's scared and timid and anxious. At his sister's recital recently, he father noticed that he had a dirty face with what might be tear tracks down it. "Have you been crying?" "Yes," they went into the bathroom and stepson 'confided' that he was afraid and worried he'd get into trouble with me for not bringing his agenda home. I couldn't care less if he does or doesn't bring it home. And--here's the kicker--he HAD been bringing his agenda home. There wasn't a problem, he was bringing it home, getting it signed, and taking it back turning it in, behaving just like he was supposed to. But still he was 'afraid' of getting into trouble about it. And about a month later he started 'losing' it. Once it just disappeared, and once the inner part disappeared leaving the cover only. And weirdly enough, he'd been sitting next to it at the dining room table all night except once when he quickly did the pool; and during that time his sister and I were together cooking dinner. But he's sure I stole it to get him in trouble. And he wants $5 for a new one.</p><p> </p><p>It's validating to me that you, who have difficult child children, also think it's scary. My husband poo-poos it. One of the therapists I didn't have any respect for, but the other one I do and I'm puzzled why she doesn't care. Thing is I don't know what to do about it, my husband doesn't know what to do about it, and there seem to be no answers that won't bankrupt us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WSM, post: 215939, member: 5169"] Actually stepson makes it very clear that he is not dangerous. Whenever the issue of him taking one gun, two knives, and a razor blade to school on 4 separate occasions comes up, he points out very calmly, "I didn't threaten anyone". As if it was all right as long as he wasn't threatening anyone. He's a victim. But he's never been bullied or been accused of bullying, but he likes to play that he's scared and timid and anxious. At his sister's recital recently, he father noticed that he had a dirty face with what might be tear tracks down it. "Have you been crying?" "Yes," they went into the bathroom and stepson 'confided' that he was afraid and worried he'd get into trouble with me for not bringing his agenda home. I couldn't care less if he does or doesn't bring it home. And--here's the kicker--he HAD been bringing his agenda home. There wasn't a problem, he was bringing it home, getting it signed, and taking it back turning it in, behaving just like he was supposed to. But still he was 'afraid' of getting into trouble about it. And about a month later he started 'losing' it. Once it just disappeared, and once the inner part disappeared leaving the cover only. And weirdly enough, he'd been sitting next to it at the dining room table all night except once when he quickly did the pool; and during that time his sister and I were together cooking dinner. But he's sure I stole it to get him in trouble. And he wants $5 for a new one. It's validating to me that you, who have difficult child children, also think it's scary. My husband poo-poos it. One of the therapists I didn't have any respect for, but the other one I do and I'm puzzled why she doesn't care. Thing is I don't know what to do about it, my husband doesn't know what to do about it, and there seem to be no answers that won't bankrupt us. [/QUOTE]
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