guinnessgirl
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difficult child (is the right? I'm new here...) was home last weekend for a visit, and things went smoothly....after I convinced my 17 yo daughter not to leave for the weekend....But, of course, things always go smoothly for visits, don't they?
Had a meeting with the "educational resource team" at DHS on Wed. to discuss our options when difficult child comes home. I told them (none of whom have met my child) that her coming home was going to be a disaster. I said, "I just want you all to remember this meeting. Because, if she comes home, she will hurt herself, one of us, or someone outside the family. And I don't want to say 'I told you so', so just remember this."
Basically, we don't have any options for school. Our local school district won't take her, and the ISD is a mess - it's a holding tank for kids, that's it. Plus, when she attended there before, they suspended her almost daily. If she made it through one day of school a week, it was a "good" week. There is a new charter school that sounds like a good fit, but no transportation....
Then, the social worker, who has NEVER MET MY DAUGHTER OR ANY OF MY OTHER KIDS, said, "Are your other kids getting counseling for difficult child coming home?" And I said, "Counseling? Is there counseling that prepares one for living with a person that assaults them? If so, you might want to share it with abused wives everywhere...." (This is why my husband generally doesn't let me attend these meetings unattended...
THEN, the social worker said, "Well, counseling would help the kids express their feelings..." And I said, "Oh, their feelings have been expressed. They are ****** and scared. And those are appropriate feelings, given the situation. So what exactly is a counseling session going to do?"
Now, husband and I are in the process of hiring an attorney that we can't afford to see if we can petition the courts to get daughter into a step-down program....and if we can keep her there for a year, she'll be old enough to move to adult foster care.....
And just to make things more interesting, I'm having hot flashes about every 20 minutes.....
Had a meeting with the "educational resource team" at DHS on Wed. to discuss our options when difficult child comes home. I told them (none of whom have met my child) that her coming home was going to be a disaster. I said, "I just want you all to remember this meeting. Because, if she comes home, she will hurt herself, one of us, or someone outside the family. And I don't want to say 'I told you so', so just remember this."
Basically, we don't have any options for school. Our local school district won't take her, and the ISD is a mess - it's a holding tank for kids, that's it. Plus, when she attended there before, they suspended her almost daily. If she made it through one day of school a week, it was a "good" week. There is a new charter school that sounds like a good fit, but no transportation....
Then, the social worker, who has NEVER MET MY DAUGHTER OR ANY OF MY OTHER KIDS, said, "Are your other kids getting counseling for difficult child coming home?" And I said, "Counseling? Is there counseling that prepares one for living with a person that assaults them? If so, you might want to share it with abused wives everywhere...." (This is why my husband generally doesn't let me attend these meetings unattended...
THEN, the social worker said, "Well, counseling would help the kids express their feelings..." And I said, "Oh, their feelings have been expressed. They are ****** and scared. And those are appropriate feelings, given the situation. So what exactly is a counseling session going to do?"
Now, husband and I are in the process of hiring an attorney that we can't afford to see if we can petition the courts to get daughter into a step-down program....and if we can keep her there for a year, she'll be old enough to move to adult foster care.....
And just to make things more interesting, I'm having hot flashes about every 20 minutes.....