Where to start, not sure. I guess I am looking for a place I can get more information and talk to people who possibly understand what I am going through. I have 2 kids, a 9yr old son and a 6yr old daughter. I have called her my jekyl-hyde kid since she was a toddler. One minute, she's an angel and the next, it's a nightmare over something so tiny. For the most part, she's good for everyone but us. Our family/close friends see that she's stubborn and not a good listener, but they do not see the total meltdowns. Went to one therapist who had us do behavior charts. It was fine except if she was going to melt, there was no reward that was going to stop it. Went to another one who suggested that perhaps we give her too many chores. (She puts her clothes away, helps set the table and helps empty the dishwasher.) The latest therapist recommended therapy and then after our initial meeting suggested psychological testing. So we've just finished 2 days off that, presumably to rule-in/rule-out adhd, odd and/or bipolar. I don't see the adhd but they say it is a possibility. She can pay attention, she's not hyper, ahead at school. So, now we wait 2 weeks for their results. Not sure what I want to hear. I want a solution but I don't want my child labeled for life. That seems like a pretty heavy burden for a kid. Our daily life is basically waiting for the next meltdown because there is just no telling when it's coming. Nothing is ever her fault, it's always ours. She'll go from happy to head-spitting in minutes and then can switch right back. Meanwhile, I feel like I got hit by a truck. Does anyone here have an ODD kid? Is it just with the parents because I thought it was all adults. What about bipolar? God, all I can think about is Britney Spears every time they say that... I have another kid whose basically getting the short end of the stick, a job that's high stress right now and not getting the attention it needs. Not sure how long I can hang on to this rope anymore, it's getting more and more frayed by the minute. I can't remember the last time I wasn't in tears at least once during the day over this.