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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 112586"><p>It is much easier to deal with this in terms of our kids in that we have some control (consequences, i.e, no video games until chores are done) and we also understand that they are still in the learning phase. We also learn ways to work around those issues. For example, I am tiiiiiired of asking the kids to do something only to keep reminding them and then it never getting done. So, today at 4:00, I knocked on their doors, said it was time to clean and specifically told them what I wanted them each to do. Now. Not when it's convenient for you. There was no harping to get it done and the house was clean in an hour.</p><p></p><p>When it comes to others, though, does it become more about acceptance? And what about others unrealistic expectations of ourselves? I think that's what I'm having the hardest time with lately. difficult child thinking I can or should fix everything, easy child expecting everything to remain as it was pre-illness, etc. I find myself trying to live up to those expectations and then feeling guilty, worthless and like a failure when I can't. And then also feeling frustrated at the type of demands being put on me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 112586"] It is much easier to deal with this in terms of our kids in that we have some control (consequences, i.e, no video games until chores are done) and we also understand that they are still in the learning phase. We also learn ways to work around those issues. For example, I am tiiiiiired of asking the kids to do something only to keep reminding them and then it never getting done. So, today at 4:00, I knocked on their doors, said it was time to clean and specifically told them what I wanted them each to do. Now. Not when it's convenient for you. There was no harping to get it done and the house was clean in an hour. When it comes to others, though, does it become more about acceptance? And what about others unrealistic expectations of ourselves? I think that's what I'm having the hardest time with lately. difficult child thinking I can or should fix everything, easy child expecting everything to remain as it was pre-illness, etc. I find myself trying to live up to those expectations and then feeling guilty, worthless and like a failure when I can't. And then also feeling frustrated at the type of demands being put on me. [/QUOTE]
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