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<blockquote data-quote="flutterby" data-source="post: 303489" data-attributes="member: 7083"><p>Obviously, you and husband need to get on the same page. He should not tolerate his child - or anyone else for that matter - talking to you, his SO, in that manner.</p><p></p><p>That said, I had a stepfather from the time I was 11. He stepped in and started acting like a parent and it went over like a ton of bricks. To this day, 25 years later, we have a cordial relationship and that's about all.</p><p></p><p>When I was in my early twenties, my mom got into a huge argument and she said something about my stepfather - can't remember exactly. And I responded that he doesn't like me, he never has, and the feeling is mutual. That we just got along - were cordial to one another - for her. She was shocked. Flabbergasted, actually. But, she couldn't dispute it.</p><p></p><p>As more time has passed since we have no longer lived together, the relationship has changed some. I respect him. But, we're not at all even remotely close. I don't share anything personal with him. But, I do support the achievements he has made in his life - which are amazing - and I respect the relationship he has with my mom. He is a good person.</p><p></p><p>I have never been interested in remarrying while my kids are still minors and it would take someone pretty darn special for me to consider marrying someone else who had kids at home. Steps are hard - for the children and the adults. Plus, I know that I've been a single parent for all of my children's lives (even when I was married, I might as well have been a single parent) and there was no way in hades I was going to let someone step in and parent my kids. But, that's just me.</p><p></p><p>If you and SO can't get on the same page, you two may need to go to counseling to get some outside help with this. He's feeling torn between you, his SO, and his child. There is possibly some guilt on his part that he is with your children more than his own children that could be playing into this, as well.</p><p></p><p>Just wanted to offer you my firsthand experience. I probably treated my stepfather pretty similar to how your stepdaughter is treating you. Not to the same extreme, but to me he was an intruder. I didn't ask for him. He was forced on me. And I resented the hell out of it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterby, post: 303489, member: 7083"] Obviously, you and husband need to get on the same page. He should not tolerate his child - or anyone else for that matter - talking to you, his SO, in that manner. That said, I had a stepfather from the time I was 11. He stepped in and started acting like a parent and it went over like a ton of bricks. To this day, 25 years later, we have a cordial relationship and that's about all. When I was in my early twenties, my mom got into a huge argument and she said something about my stepfather - can't remember exactly. And I responded that he doesn't like me, he never has, and the feeling is mutual. That we just got along - were cordial to one another - for her. She was shocked. Flabbergasted, actually. But, she couldn't dispute it. As more time has passed since we have no longer lived together, the relationship has changed some. I respect him. But, we're not at all even remotely close. I don't share anything personal with him. But, I do support the achievements he has made in his life - which are amazing - and I respect the relationship he has with my mom. He is a good person. I have never been interested in remarrying while my kids are still minors and it would take someone pretty darn special for me to consider marrying someone else who had kids at home. Steps are hard - for the children and the adults. Plus, I know that I've been a single parent for all of my children's lives (even when I was married, I might as well have been a single parent) and there was no way in hades I was going to let someone step in and parent my kids. But, that's just me. If you and SO can't get on the same page, you two may need to go to counseling to get some outside help with this. He's feeling torn between you, his SO, and his child. There is possibly some guilt on his part that he is with your children more than his own children that could be playing into this, as well. Just wanted to offer you my firsthand experience. I probably treated my stepfather pretty similar to how your stepdaughter is treating you. Not to the same extreme, but to me he was an intruder. I didn't ask for him. He was forced on me. And I resented the hell out of it. [/QUOTE]
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