Long story short. difficult child received a spider bite. Got infected to hell and beyond. Didn't know it until she showed it to me. It looked BAD. I said we got to go to the doctors NOW. Instead of being thankful for my concern, she freaked out in rage saying she is not going, called me every name in the book, the whole neighborhood heard us , she threw a glass vase and shattered it in the kitchen and worst of all (for her) her new boyfriend witnessed the whole thing. I am so glad he was there or she would have attacked me. What made her feel even more dumb than she was already being is that he said "why are you acting like this? Your mom just cares about you. Just go to the doctor, it's not that big a deal". I think he stayed because he saw I was afraid or he would have left. She just showed who she really was to her boyfriend and she knows it's bad because we talked about it numerous times and she is well aware of how bad it makes her look because she had several friends who put her in her place and also stopped being friends with her because of how she treats me. But she never learns. Just like she got herpes. You would think after so many people telling her it's wrong the way she treats me and the way she's living, you would think she get it. Of course she will blame me for it all, every last bit of it and then some. I finally got her to go to the hospital in case your wondering because her boyfriend helped make her go. As much as I just wanted to say eff it, I didn't want her to lose her leg to an infection. The point of all this is, she probably is going to lose her boyfriend, the one who accepted her for her herpes. I know how it's going to go, he's going to leave her because no one respects anyone who don't respect their mother. I could tell he thought it was horrid. The worst criminals in prison look down on people who mistreat their mothers. She knows this and she will blame me for making her look bad and possibly losing her boyfriend when she gets back home, which then.... I think she will kill me. Yes I do fear for my life when this happens. I tried everything, there is nothing I can do until she is 18 which won't be too much longer, than I leave this hell for good and she will really see how it is in the real world.