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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 195174" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>My easy child 2/difficult child 2 is also very smart, although sometimes I wonder if her brains have leaked out somewhere along the way...</p><p></p><p>She also was a cutter, but some time ago, actually before she really got into Goth in a big way. She's not cut for five years or more now. For her, the cutting was a separate issue. difficult child 1 was also a cutter, and isn't into Goth at all, although he does wear a lot of black and studs on bracelets. But otherwise, he's a Star Wars nut. Although is it possible that Darth Vader is just an overgrown futuristic Goth?</p><p></p><p>I think for easy child 2/difficult child 2, the Goth thing began as a way to cover up her scars, with long sleeves of black lace. Now she no longer worries about covering up her scars, she will openly talk about cutting (as a stupid thing she once did) to warn others off it, she works on her designs and can tone down the Goth look when it's socially appropriate to do so. For example, she's chosen her wedding dress already and although there are some potentially Goth-but-acceptable designs, what she has chosen is lovely, olde-worlde but certainly not Goth.</p><p></p><p>I think, with anything like this, it all depends on WHY the child has made the switch to whatever-it-is, not exactly what it is. Given a choice, I'm happier with my daughter's Goth outfits than if she was into Bratz or similar over-sexualised over-commercialised merchandising. But then - I don't think there's any attempt by my daughter (any more) to use Goth (or anything else) as a smokescreen.</p><p></p><p>It comes down to the honesty of it, and how obsessed the child is, if it is developing to an unhealthy extent.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 195174, member: 1991"] My easy child 2/difficult child 2 is also very smart, although sometimes I wonder if her brains have leaked out somewhere along the way... She also was a cutter, but some time ago, actually before she really got into Goth in a big way. She's not cut for five years or more now. For her, the cutting was a separate issue. difficult child 1 was also a cutter, and isn't into Goth at all, although he does wear a lot of black and studs on bracelets. But otherwise, he's a Star Wars nut. Although is it possible that Darth Vader is just an overgrown futuristic Goth? I think for easy child 2/difficult child 2, the Goth thing began as a way to cover up her scars, with long sleeves of black lace. Now she no longer worries about covering up her scars, she will openly talk about cutting (as a stupid thing she once did) to warn others off it, she works on her designs and can tone down the Goth look when it's socially appropriate to do so. For example, she's chosen her wedding dress already and although there are some potentially Goth-but-acceptable designs, what she has chosen is lovely, olde-worlde but certainly not Goth. I think, with anything like this, it all depends on WHY the child has made the switch to whatever-it-is, not exactly what it is. Given a choice, I'm happier with my daughter's Goth outfits than if she was into Bratz or similar over-sexualised over-commercialised merchandising. But then - I don't think there's any attempt by my daughter (any more) to use Goth (or anything else) as a smokescreen. It comes down to the honesty of it, and how obsessed the child is, if it is developing to an unhealthy extent. Marg [/QUOTE]
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