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<blockquote data-quote="BackintheSaddle" data-source="post: 618872" data-attributes="member: 17503"><p>Such a scary thing to have your son on the streets...I'm so sorry for your pain...but I have a question...aren't we supposed to encourage each other to detach ourselves from the one who is controlling our lives? why is it the mom's responsibility to call the shelters, treatment center, and so on...take all those notes and stress herself out about finding just the right place for him?...he's resourceful enough to find the drugs when he wants them (even when he's in a sober house), I'm certain he can figure out where to get help if he really wants it...I know with him being 18 that's so hard to do but like MWM points out, he has to want to quit....I've worked with substance abusers for years...if he's on the streets, finding people to buy drugs from, everyone he's talking to also knows the local resources-- many of them will have used every one of them and still be on the streets...it's very easy for him to find out where the shelters are, just like he's obviously finding where the drugs are...in my humble opinion, this is a great time for you to work on letting go....as many messages say...detach...detach.....detach...god bless you though...as some of us were talking earlier today, it's a very hard thing TO DO...but you can do it...even if it's 'minute by minute' like I've been living today...the day will still go by and hopefully you'll find some peace...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BackintheSaddle, post: 618872, member: 17503"] Such a scary thing to have your son on the streets...I'm so sorry for your pain...but I have a question...aren't we supposed to encourage each other to detach ourselves from the one who is controlling our lives? why is it the mom's responsibility to call the shelters, treatment center, and so on...take all those notes and stress herself out about finding just the right place for him?...he's resourceful enough to find the drugs when he wants them (even when he's in a sober house), I'm certain he can figure out where to get help if he really wants it...I know with him being 18 that's so hard to do but like MWM points out, he has to want to quit....I've worked with substance abusers for years...if he's on the streets, finding people to buy drugs from, everyone he's talking to also knows the local resources-- many of them will have used every one of them and still be on the streets...it's very easy for him to find out where the shelters are, just like he's obviously finding where the drugs are...in my humble opinion, this is a great time for you to work on letting go....as many messages say...detach...detach.....detach...god bless you though...as some of us were talking earlier today, it's a very hard thing TO DO...but you can do it...even if it's 'minute by minute' like I've been living today...the day will still go by and hopefully you'll find some peace... [/QUOTE]
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