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<blockquote data-quote="svengandhi" data-source="post: 226982" data-attributes="member: 3493"><p>I have a different take on this. I don't think these people have any obligation to give your kids or you a gift. A gift is something you give because you love and care about someone, not because you feel obligated.</p><p></p><p>Did your difficult child bring THEM a present? If she did, was it on par with what you thought she should get from them if not monetarily, then in thoughtfulness?</p><p></p><p>On the other hand, since there are children involved, the present opening should have been done out of the presence of your kids, who are too young to understand why the grandchildren are getting great gifts and they are not. That was inconsiderate but it didn't sound intentional - it was probably their family ritual to do it at that time and they didn't see the point in upsetting their grandchildren for kids who might or might not be around next year.</p><p></p><p>I think these people were thoughtless but I don't think they have any duty to give to your kids the same as their grandchildren. If you do marry their son, however, the gifts should equal up or at least get closer because then there is a relationship.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="svengandhi, post: 226982, member: 3493"] I have a different take on this. I don't think these people have any obligation to give your kids or you a gift. A gift is something you give because you love and care about someone, not because you feel obligated. Did your difficult child bring THEM a present? If she did, was it on par with what you thought she should get from them if not monetarily, then in thoughtfulness? On the other hand, since there are children involved, the present opening should have been done out of the presence of your kids, who are too young to understand why the grandchildren are getting great gifts and they are not. That was inconsiderate but it didn't sound intentional - it was probably their family ritual to do it at that time and they didn't see the point in upsetting their grandchildren for kids who might or might not be around next year. I think these people were thoughtless but I don't think they have any duty to give to your kids the same as their grandchildren. If you do marry their son, however, the gifts should equal up or at least get closer because then there is a relationship. [/QUOTE]
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