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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 227423" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I cannot envision a time when ANYONE would be in my home or with my side of the family during Christmas gift opening and not have a present. Usually I can even manage to pull together soemthing the person will LIKE. We have had international students my bro invited with-o telling my parents that showed up at 8 am for the day (yes, he told them the time) and my mother and I managed to get fairly nice items quickly wrapped for them. That is why we always have a storage tub with gift items bought when we had extra $ and things were on sale. So we CAN make sure no one leaves our homes on an occasion like this feeling left out or unwanted.</p><p></p><p>I could see if they didn't give Jen a gift. That sends a message, but she is an adult.</p><p></p><p>but to give a child something that CLEARLY says I don't care about you and don't want to (and that IS what they said) well, it is worse than bad manners. It would take me a while of stewing about it. But I would end up sending an apology for "crashing" their gift opening, thanking them for the slippers, and assuring them that we would not ever be at their home again.</p><p></p><p>And yes, my husband would have to literally drag me kicking and screaming through their door again. It is willfully oblivious of your SO to think that they were just not thinking. Gift cards are just too easy to get - and since they gave them to other kids, well, it wouldn't be hard to pick up one for each of your kids. And a $5 McDonalds gift card is the same size as a $500 mall gift card. So it makes the "size" MUCH less "in your face".</p><p></p><p>these gifts were "in your face" messgaes that you are not welcome in their home. I would take that message and return it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 227423, member: 1233"] I cannot envision a time when ANYONE would be in my home or with my side of the family during Christmas gift opening and not have a present. Usually I can even manage to pull together soemthing the person will LIKE. We have had international students my bro invited with-o telling my parents that showed up at 8 am for the day (yes, he told them the time) and my mother and I managed to get fairly nice items quickly wrapped for them. That is why we always have a storage tub with gift items bought when we had extra $ and things were on sale. So we CAN make sure no one leaves our homes on an occasion like this feeling left out or unwanted. I could see if they didn't give Jen a gift. That sends a message, but she is an adult. but to give a child something that CLEARLY says I don't care about you and don't want to (and that IS what they said) well, it is worse than bad manners. It would take me a while of stewing about it. But I would end up sending an apology for "crashing" their gift opening, thanking them for the slippers, and assuring them that we would not ever be at their home again. And yes, my husband would have to literally drag me kicking and screaming through their door again. It is willfully oblivious of your SO to think that they were just not thinking. Gift cards are just too easy to get - and since they gave them to other kids, well, it wouldn't be hard to pick up one for each of your kids. And a $5 McDonalds gift card is the same size as a $500 mall gift card. So it makes the "size" MUCH less "in your face". these gifts were "in your face" messgaes that you are not welcome in their home. I would take that message and return it. [/QUOTE]
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