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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 174876" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I agree, do not hide it. I believe he is already picking up on your fears and concerns. If your difficult child is seeing a psychiatrist or therapist, that person can also help difficult child work through this. You might want meet with them without difficult child 1st to go over the issues and to ask them how much info and how to share the info with difficult child.</p><p> </p><p>I think it is hard for our difficult child's to grasp the need to be concerned but not terrified. I know my difficult child just has a hard time stopping at the "it is time to be concerned just enough to do what is needed to be safe but you do not need to enter the terrified mode." They hear bad news and it is all of a sudden the end of the world. The tornado warnings go off and my difficult child starts to freak out, "difficult child, you do not have to be that scared. It is just telling us to follow our tornado plan. We know what to do. We will be fine. Let's calm down and follow the plan."</p><p> </p><p>I think it will be easier to introduce him to whatever is going on now than if/when it does become a crisis. Let's say you are prone to dehydration, "difficult child, sometimes I need to go to ER just to get hydrated again. It sounds scary but that is where you get that kind of help. I will be just fine!"</p><p> </p><p>As long as you can stay strong and assure difficult child that you are doing everything you need to do then you are doing all you can. Like the tornado, yes, this illness may come too close for comfort, but as long as we follow this plan, we can be as safe as possible. Keep the focus on the plan and off the possible bad results.</p><p> </p><p>Let us know how it goes - I have a feeling that this will be an experience that will help others.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 174876, member: 5096"] I agree, do not hide it. I believe he is already picking up on your fears and concerns. If your difficult child is seeing a psychiatrist or therapist, that person can also help difficult child work through this. You might want meet with them without difficult child 1st to go over the issues and to ask them how much info and how to share the info with difficult child. I think it is hard for our difficult child's to grasp the need to be concerned but not terrified. I know my difficult child just has a hard time stopping at the "it is time to be concerned just enough to do what is needed to be safe but you do not need to enter the terrified mode." They hear bad news and it is all of a sudden the end of the world. The tornado warnings go off and my difficult child starts to freak out, "difficult child, you do not have to be that scared. It is just telling us to follow our tornado plan. We know what to do. We will be fine. Let's calm down and follow the plan." I think it will be easier to introduce him to whatever is going on now than if/when it does become a crisis. Let's say you are prone to dehydration, "difficult child, sometimes I need to go to ER just to get hydrated again. It sounds scary but that is where you get that kind of help. I will be just fine!" As long as you can stay strong and assure difficult child that you are doing everything you need to do then you are doing all you can. Like the tornado, yes, this illness may come too close for comfort, but as long as we follow this plan, we can be as safe as possible. Keep the focus on the plan and off the possible bad results. Let us know how it goes - I have a feeling that this will be an experience that will help others. [/QUOTE]
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