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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 663059" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I feel so sad to think he has Attachment Disorder. We loved each other so much. He attached so well and completely at 22 months and thereafter.</p><p></p><p>I am planning my trip. That is the only way I can cope with this. I have said my piece to him about necessary treatments. I will help my son to the extent that he wants to and I am able. He knows what he needs to do. He needs to re-enter treatment and continue. If he needs a lifelong protected environment, he can find it there. The Big City near us is among the best places in the USA I think to find what he needs. He just needs to accept it. </p><p></p><p>What my son does is beyond my control now. I will put aside my lobbying for treatments of any sort. I have done what I can do. I will concentrate on my own, on M's and our welfare together as the only priorities.</p><p></p><p>I will no longer explain to my son how I feel. I will cut short our phone conversations. He can no longer come to my home. I will no longer go anywhere with him where I cannot get away quickly.</p><p></p><p>When I get to my cross country destination I will go to as many Coda and Al Anon meetings as I need to to achieve a semblance of well-being.</p><p></p><p>My course is set, as is my son's and they are independent. I see there is no other way.</p><p>___</p><p>All kinds of beautiful new clothes and shoes have been arriving at my house. They are all 'my style." The 15 pounds plus weight loss has given me back my face. My hair is in a long braid. I am happy looking at myself even without any makeup, once again. I do not want to keep all of the clothes because I do not want to stay at this weight. It will be hard to decide. What a great problem to have.</p><p>____</p><p>There seems to be a consensus that my son's problems are severe, disabling and global. How could I have missed this? What planet have I been living on? I have such grief for him. How can I be with him if I accept there is no recovery from this? </p><p></p><p>He saw a Psychiatrist since 6th grade. How did that person miss this? How do I live with this and go on? How can I find a way to be with my son in a way that is gratifying? Will he ever come back to me in a way that we can love each other as we once did, even remotely? In a way that is relaxed and comfortable and positive?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 663059, member: 18958"] I feel so sad to think he has Attachment Disorder. We loved each other so much. He attached so well and completely at 22 months and thereafter. I am planning my trip. That is the only way I can cope with this. I have said my piece to him about necessary treatments. I will help my son to the extent that he wants to and I am able. He knows what he needs to do. He needs to re-enter treatment and continue. If he needs a lifelong protected environment, he can find it there. The Big City near us is among the best places in the USA I think to find what he needs. He just needs to accept it. What my son does is beyond my control now. I will put aside my lobbying for treatments of any sort. I have done what I can do. I will concentrate on my own, on M's and our welfare together as the only priorities. I will no longer explain to my son how I feel. I will cut short our phone conversations. He can no longer come to my home. I will no longer go anywhere with him where I cannot get away quickly. When I get to my cross country destination I will go to as many Coda and Al Anon meetings as I need to to achieve a semblance of well-being. My course is set, as is my son's and they are independent. I see there is no other way. ___ All kinds of beautiful new clothes and shoes have been arriving at my house. They are all 'my style." The 15 pounds plus weight loss has given me back my face. My hair is in a long braid. I am happy looking at myself even without any makeup, once again. I do not want to keep all of the clothes because I do not want to stay at this weight. It will be hard to decide. What a great problem to have. ____ There seems to be a consensus that my son's problems are severe, disabling and global. How could I have missed this? What planet have I been living on? I have such grief for him. How can I be with him if I accept there is no recovery from this? He saw a Psychiatrist since 6th grade. How did that person miss this? How do I live with this and go on? How can I find a way to be with my son in a way that is gratifying? Will he ever come back to me in a way that we can love each other as we once did, even remotely? In a way that is relaxed and comfortable and positive? [/QUOTE]
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