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Family of Origin (FOO) Support Thread Part 2
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 663135" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Cedar, I want to tell you one more thing about me.</p><p></p><p>The only reason I am who I am is because I suffered and I learned.</p><p></p><p>Even as a girl I had the same values as I do now. In my mother's stuff I read her description of me as non-materialistic, and selfless, I think. But I have a personality type that makes me easily dismissed and would have predicted that I remain quite ineffectual and unsubstantial as a person.</p><p></p><p>Exaggeratedly female. Hysterical they call it. Histrionic is another bad word that people would have thrown at me and they did. Overly emotional. Driven by emotions. (I had a friend who I had asked write a letter of reference to adopt a child. She wrote that because I was emotional, this should disqualify me as a parent. Gee. Maybe she was right, after all.) Shallow. Inconstant. Timid. Fearful.</p><p></p><p>I am often dismissed by colleagues. Until they know me and my work. Then they either respect me or try to hurt me because of envy or jealousy.</p><p></p><p>Had I not been traumatized as a girl I would have been the kind of woman who is attention seeking, dramatic, focused on her appearance, attracting men. Maybe even a diva-type. (Wow, would I have loved all of that.)</p><p></p><p>All of this is to say nothing in my personality makeup or my background would have predicted I would have had the depth I have come to have. The steadfastness. The commitment.</p><p></p><p>I became who I am because I faced problems. By doing so I became more than I ever could have or would have been. So, that is my philosophy of life.</p><p></p><p>I see so many people on this board doing the same thing. Post by post. Taking stand after stand. They build themselves into people they could not have dreamed of becoming. Every day you are here helping them do that. We could not do it without you. See yourself through our eyes, Cedar.</p><p></p><p>Cedar, I counted 7 smiley faces on that first post. I feel bad I did not put smiley faces for you. Later, when I come home, I will try to edit. I am sorry. You deserved lots of smiley faces.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 663135, member: 18958"] Cedar, I want to tell you one more thing about me. The only reason I am who I am is because I suffered and I learned. Even as a girl I had the same values as I do now. In my mother's stuff I read her description of me as non-materialistic, and selfless, I think. But I have a personality type that makes me easily dismissed and would have predicted that I remain quite ineffectual and unsubstantial as a person. Exaggeratedly female. Hysterical they call it. Histrionic is another bad word that people would have thrown at me and they did. Overly emotional. Driven by emotions. (I had a friend who I had asked write a letter of reference to adopt a child. She wrote that because I was emotional, this should disqualify me as a parent. Gee. Maybe she was right, after all.) Shallow. Inconstant. Timid. Fearful. I am often dismissed by colleagues. Until they know me and my work. Then they either respect me or try to hurt me because of envy or jealousy. Had I not been traumatized as a girl I would have been the kind of woman who is attention seeking, dramatic, focused on her appearance, attracting men. Maybe even a diva-type. (Wow, would I have loved all of that.) All of this is to say nothing in my personality makeup or my background would have predicted I would have had the depth I have come to have. The steadfastness. The commitment. I became who I am because I faced problems. By doing so I became more than I ever could have or would have been. So, that is my philosophy of life. I see so many people on this board doing the same thing. Post by post. Taking stand after stand. They build themselves into people they could not have dreamed of becoming. Every day you are here helping them do that. We could not do it without you. See yourself through our eyes, Cedar. Cedar, I counted 7 smiley faces on that first post. I feel bad I did not put smiley faces for you. Later, when I come home, I will try to edit. I am sorry. You deserved lots of smiley faces. [/QUOTE]
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