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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 663929" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I have to go to the dentist. I have read some but not all of the posts. </p><p></p><p>I want to say this about the current Psychiatrist that I talk to every 2 weeks. He knew this other man. He is from the same perspective of thought and practice.</p><p></p><p>After all, with so many years invested, so am I. But not like them.</p><p></p><p>So in the beginning of talking with this guy, not the first 2 times, but maybe the 3rd or 4th....He said: This is going to take a long time.</p><p></p><p>It must have been after I said something about my mother where it was clear that I had utterly abandoned myself.</p><p></p><p>It was exactly the same tone as some people took with me when I started on this board. Because I was adamant that I could not ever choose for myself, when my child was at stake. Some people called me words. That I was this or that. I am sure they thought I was irretrievable so. </p><p></p><p>Or at the very least, it would take a long, long time.</p><p></p><p>And that was the flavor of the other therapist. The man who betrayed. </p><p></p><p>You have serious problems. </p><p></p><p>The lack of faith. The lack of trust. There is an abandonment in that. In the willingness to see somebody as that lost. </p><p></p><p>How can anybody know? Who is anybody to make that kind of judgment, really?</p><p></p><p>I know with my son that my panic and desperation is largely due to a failure of faith, to abandonment of myself...and that my inability to hold the faith with him...is due to my inability to do so in myself. </p><p></p><p>But there are many people who do not see that built in to them is something they call reality, they call ability to face the truth, they call a strength...and I am not sure it is. </p><p></p><p>That psychiatrist I talk to is sure that my son is deficited, is irretrievably broken. And cannot be fixed. Has "serious problems." And he has never met him. </p><p></p><p>We are back to the same thing, really. How do we negotiate these things? </p><p></p><p>Kill the messenger?</p><p>Kill off ourselves? Our children in our minds' eye?</p><p></p><p>All of this metaphorically speaking, I do not want to be suspected of infanticide or whatever you would call it with a D C. </p><p></p><p>I have to go to the dentist.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 663929, member: 18958"] I have to go to the dentist. I have read some but not all of the posts. I want to say this about the current Psychiatrist that I talk to every 2 weeks. He knew this other man. He is from the same perspective of thought and practice. After all, with so many years invested, so am I. But not like them. So in the beginning of talking with this guy, not the first 2 times, but maybe the 3rd or 4th....He said: This is going to take a long time. It must have been after I said something about my mother where it was clear that I had utterly abandoned myself. It was exactly the same tone as some people took with me when I started on this board. Because I was adamant that I could not ever choose for myself, when my child was at stake. Some people called me words. That I was this or that. I am sure they thought I was irretrievable so. Or at the very least, it would take a long, long time. And that was the flavor of the other therapist. The man who betrayed. You have serious problems. The lack of faith. The lack of trust. There is an abandonment in that. In the willingness to see somebody as that lost. How can anybody know? Who is anybody to make that kind of judgment, really? I know with my son that my panic and desperation is largely due to a failure of faith, to abandonment of myself...and that my inability to hold the faith with him...is due to my inability to do so in myself. But there are many people who do not see that built in to them is something they call reality, they call ability to face the truth, they call a strength...and I am not sure it is. That psychiatrist I talk to is sure that my son is deficited, is irretrievably broken. And cannot be fixed. Has "serious problems." And he has never met him. We are back to the same thing, really. How do we negotiate these things? Kill the messenger? Kill off ourselves? Our children in our minds' eye? All of this metaphorically speaking, I do not want to be suspected of infanticide or whatever you would call it with a D C. I have to go to the dentist. [/QUOTE]
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