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Family of Origin (FOO) Support Thread Part 2
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 663969" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>A letter that started out I've been meaning to tell you all the things that bother me about you (or some such beginning) was not worth finishing. </p><p>He probably wrote it at his therapists suggestion although it is surprising she asked him to actually mail it.</p><p>Regardless, there are phones. He could have called me to talk about it, but I know him. He doesn't like confrontation and was probably scared. That doesn't make me respect him, by the way. </p><p>Now I didn't act well either. I was so rattled I remember shaking as I keyboarded a response, not even knowing what he complained about and it was probably disjointed, angry, and incoherent. I get that way when I'm hurt/upset and it hurt me a lot. I *should* have called him and said, "I didn't read your letter. I want to hear it in your words. So what bothers you about me?</p><p>I didn't think of doing that, but that was then. </p><p>At any rate, it is over. I have taken off the blinders and seen everyone in my FOO with clear eyes and with all their troubles and issues in my opinion they have no right to heap what they think is wrong with me on me. Since it is my option not to listen to it, I choose not to.</p><p>I know he wasn't sharing anything delicate about himself with me. We weren't close! </p><p>I will never be sorry I didn't read his "problems with you." I will always regret I wrote back in anger and despair, but I can't take it back and me and him are over so it no longer matters.</p><p>My response is on MY shoulders. I have learned a lesson from this.</p><p></p><p>Go us!!!! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 663969, member: 1550"] A letter that started out I've been meaning to tell you all the things that bother me about you (or some such beginning) was not worth finishing. He probably wrote it at his therapists suggestion although it is surprising she asked him to actually mail it. Regardless, there are phones. He could have called me to talk about it, but I know him. He doesn't like confrontation and was probably scared. That doesn't make me respect him, by the way. Now I didn't act well either. I was so rattled I remember shaking as I keyboarded a response, not even knowing what he complained about and it was probably disjointed, angry, and incoherent. I get that way when I'm hurt/upset and it hurt me a lot. I *should* have called him and said, "I didn't read your letter. I want to hear it in your words. So what bothers you about me? I didn't think of doing that, but that was then. At any rate, it is over. I have taken off the blinders and seen everyone in my FOO with clear eyes and with all their troubles and issues in my opinion they have no right to heap what they think is wrong with me on me. Since it is my option not to listen to it, I choose not to. I know he wasn't sharing anything delicate about himself with me. We weren't close! I will never be sorry I didn't read his "problems with you." I will always regret I wrote back in anger and despair, but I can't take it back and me and him are over so it no longer matters. My response is on MY shoulders. I have learned a lesson from this. Go us!!!! ;) [/QUOTE]
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