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Family of Origin (FOO) Support Thread Part 2
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 664046" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>SWOT, my comment on the other thread was not a comment on adoption. Rather, I responded to your disparaging yourself as a contributor of DNA to a child. </p><p>This is the thing you are dealing with here on thread. Your feelings about yourself, because your mother and sister are in you, both shared DNA, shared environments, outlooks and influences, and memories.</p><p>That was exactly my motivation to adopt. Exactly my reasoning.</p><p></p><p>I never reproduced at all. But this determined my choice to adopt. Also, I did not believe it was moral for me to produce a child, because I did not have a mate, with whom to raise that child. I believed it was wrong for me to choose to bring a child into the world, without a father. Many people feel differently. But I felt this way.</p><p>Of course I do not. I never questioned your decision. </p><p></p><p>I responded to what I thought was your denigration of yourself. As a potential parent and as a contributor of DNA to a child. Everybody;s DNA SWOT has its weaknesses. And it is not always clear what is a weakness and what a strength. Because DNA responds to environmental influences. What is a weakness in some environments is a strength in others.</p><p></p><p>I don't know. It could have been that the marriage of your parents itself, was what was toxic, and that either parent's DNA in the form of a child, would have flourished in another couple, with another sort of interaction. Nobody knows.</p><p> Nor has been mine, or Cedar's or anybody's. </p><p></p><p>Finally, I did not comment on your decision to adopt. </p><p></p><p>I feel differently about my own DNA. Even though it is probably not the highest quality if it was rated by objective experts, whoever they are. I wanted to reproduce. </p><p></p><p>What I commented upon is what sounded to me like you were talking bad about yourself, and what is intrinsically you. Not your choices.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 664046, member: 18958"] SWOT, my comment on the other thread was not a comment on adoption. Rather, I responded to your disparaging yourself as a contributor of DNA to a child. This is the thing you are dealing with here on thread. Your feelings about yourself, because your mother and sister are in you, both shared DNA, shared environments, outlooks and influences, and memories. That was exactly my motivation to adopt. Exactly my reasoning. I never reproduced at all. But this determined my choice to adopt. Also, I did not believe it was moral for me to produce a child, because I did not have a mate, with whom to raise that child. I believed it was wrong for me to choose to bring a child into the world, without a father. Many people feel differently. But I felt this way. Of course I do not. I never questioned your decision. I responded to what I thought was your denigration of yourself. As a potential parent and as a contributor of DNA to a child. Everybody;s DNA SWOT has its weaknesses. And it is not always clear what is a weakness and what a strength. Because DNA responds to environmental influences. What is a weakness in some environments is a strength in others. I don't know. It could have been that the marriage of your parents itself, was what was toxic, and that either parent's DNA in the form of a child, would have flourished in another couple, with another sort of interaction. Nobody knows. Nor has been mine, or Cedar's or anybody's. Finally, I did not comment on your decision to adopt. I feel differently about my own DNA. Even though it is probably not the highest quality if it was rated by objective experts, whoever they are. I wanted to reproduce. What I commented upon is what sounded to me like you were talking bad about yourself, and what is intrinsically you. Not your choices. [/QUOTE]
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