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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 538579" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Travis couldn't rough house because someone <strong>would</strong> get hurt, and he has no "off" switch. (super human strength and never realized when he was hurting someone)</p><p></p><p>While there weren't other difficult children in husband's family as far as kids their age (thank heaven), there were Travis and Nichole..........and that was enough. Although Nichole could usually hold it together quite nicely for such things............as long as she and Travis were basically kept at a distance. Rough housing was NOT allowed period, in any form by my kids and I didn't give a darn who didn't like it or though I was mean about it. Mine had strict rules to follow or the wrath of mom to answer to, and it would be swift. </p><p></p><p>It helped, but you're not going to probably have a difficult child freebie when having a family gathering. That's just a fact of life. If it were me? My kids would be following MY rules (I've always been super strict anyway) and it avoided a lot of potential issues. We could still have the occasional difficult child moment......or melt down.....but they were few and far between. I didn't worry about what other family members thought or felt about it. And since it was husband's family.........uh, there was no one I could ally with except mother in law....who never objected to my rules on matter of principal. I was Mom and I overruled everyone. Know what I mean?? (see why I adored her? LOL )</p><p></p><p>With my kids I discovered the more relaxed I let myself be, often the more relaxed and less hyped up they were, which also helped because something like this would have Travis going full tilt a week or more in advance. </p><p></p><p>And we still out of the blue managed to have a major autistic meltdown/zone out thing in the middle of a perfectly lovely holiday dinner one year.......and we never did actually figure out the trigger....right out in the middle of the street in front of brother in law's house. *sigh* Why? Because it happens. </p><p></p><p>You do what you need to do to keep your own kids on an even keel and don't worry about someone else's kid. You have your own hands full as it is. What they do or don't think about your parenting is <strong>their</strong> issue, not yours. </p><p></p><p>I hope you all manage to have a good time.</p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 538579, member: 84"] Travis couldn't rough house because someone [B]would[/B] get hurt, and he has no "off" switch. (super human strength and never realized when he was hurting someone) While there weren't other difficult children in husband's family as far as kids their age (thank heaven), there were Travis and Nichole..........and that was enough. Although Nichole could usually hold it together quite nicely for such things............as long as she and Travis were basically kept at a distance. Rough housing was NOT allowed period, in any form by my kids and I didn't give a darn who didn't like it or though I was mean about it. Mine had strict rules to follow or the wrath of mom to answer to, and it would be swift. It helped, but you're not going to probably have a difficult child freebie when having a family gathering. That's just a fact of life. If it were me? My kids would be following MY rules (I've always been super strict anyway) and it avoided a lot of potential issues. We could still have the occasional difficult child moment......or melt down.....but they were few and far between. I didn't worry about what other family members thought or felt about it. And since it was husband's family.........uh, there was no one I could ally with except mother in law....who never objected to my rules on matter of principal. I was Mom and I overruled everyone. Know what I mean?? (see why I adored her? LOL ) With my kids I discovered the more relaxed I let myself be, often the more relaxed and less hyped up they were, which also helped because something like this would have Travis going full tilt a week or more in advance. And we still out of the blue managed to have a major autistic meltdown/zone out thing in the middle of a perfectly lovely holiday dinner one year.......and we never did actually figure out the trigger....right out in the middle of the street in front of brother in law's house. *sigh* Why? Because it happens. You do what you need to do to keep your own kids on an even keel and don't worry about someone else's kid. You have your own hands full as it is. What they do or don't think about your parenting is [B]their[/B] issue, not yours. I hope you all manage to have a good time. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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