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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 484199" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>My son is in a different situation so my goal isn't exactly the same as yours. He's coming out of Department of Juvenile Justice (incarceration) in a couple of months and since his committing offense was against me and we tried this once before but it didn't work, I had asked for him to go to a short term group home or foster care temporarily, to slow the transition back into the home and make sure he was actually going to try this time. The parole officer leaped to planning for a long term group home, that would cause my son to age out of the system. It has similar rrequirements as what you are describing. I couldn't figure out why I would need to meet with them or do their 'treaatment' (no licensed prof involved) if they are ordering this and it forces my son to stay in it until after he's 18,. just because he'll be over 17 when he gets there. So, I feel for your sittuation and completely understand why you are ttaking the position that you are with the group home AND your difficult child. However, I'm going to see if I can use this info (not against you) but it might help me argue against this long term ggroup home for my son. If they are requiring my participation or they won't keep him, then maybe they'll be forced to come up with another plan.</p><p></p><p>My honest opinion- it's not their 'treatment' that works- it's the dangling the carrot of being reunited with the parent that motivates the kid. Once the kid is back in the home, the family doesn't have a big carrot like that to dangle and things fall apart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 484199, member: 3699"] My son is in a different situation so my goal isn't exactly the same as yours. He's coming out of Department of Juvenile Justice (incarceration) in a couple of months and since his committing offense was against me and we tried this once before but it didn't work, I had asked for him to go to a short term group home or foster care temporarily, to slow the transition back into the home and make sure he was actually going to try this time. The parole officer leaped to planning for a long term group home, that would cause my son to age out of the system. It has similar rrequirements as what you are describing. I couldn't figure out why I would need to meet with them or do their 'treaatment' (no licensed prof involved) if they are ordering this and it forces my son to stay in it until after he's 18,. just because he'll be over 17 when he gets there. So, I feel for your sittuation and completely understand why you are ttaking the position that you are with the group home AND your difficult child. However, I'm going to see if I can use this info (not against you) but it might help me argue against this long term ggroup home for my son. If they are requiring my participation or they won't keep him, then maybe they'll be forced to come up with another plan. My honest opinion- it's not their 'treatment' that works- it's the dangling the carrot of being reunited with the parent that motivates the kid. Once the kid is back in the home, the family doesn't have a big carrot like that to dangle and things fall apart. [/QUOTE]
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