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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 254510" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>That's somewhat what I'm thinking- if I can get out of there witthout a court order. If she sends him home with us requiring so many hours/week of therapy by their tdocs (who call the hours and days), I'll never be able to work full time or get out of here. I tried to explain this to PO's super, but he told me he didn't care.</p><p></p><p>Plus, difficult child and I both continuously deteriorated with this PO in our lives. She will never let him offf probation and will not give any criteria or means to get off. difficult child's therapist said this made difficult child hopeless and give up- which made me crazy because I couldn't get him to do anything. Then, he started refusing to listen to me at all and didn't care what he did because he knew PO would come down on me instead of him. It's like there is no way out. </p><p></p><p>'I don't want it to be state juvy though, because it would be too much of a dettriment to difficult child. He would still come out on probation, but if I could get in an area that actually allowed a kid to get out of the system within a reasonable amount of time, it would do us a lot of good.</p><p></p><p>Something interesting- I found on line that this judge had advocated to get a law passed so kids in legal trouble could claim "not guilty due to insanity or menttal illness" so that juvenile judges could access more treatment instead of juvy. She hasn't won this yet, but it tells me my gut has been right- the problem isn't the judge. Although I still beleive that she could force the Residential Treatment Center (RTC)- by ordering the PO to do her job- just liike a judge can order inpatient substance abuse programs. Anyway- the problem is the people between the judge and the family. They don't know what they are doing, they don't care, they don't make enough effort, and they are too interested in blaming the family and CYA themselves than they are really getting help or prevention. But how to get the judge to see that without really stepping out of line is a different story.</p><p></p><p>It should help if GAL does what she said she was going to- ttell the judge that dss never called her back or took any steps and that PO could have gotten the county team to get difficult child into Residential Treatment Center (RTC) but didn't. Plus, the GAL knows this so-called mental health cm could have done it but didn't. Now, I also think GAL should have been agressively advocaating for difficult child this past 3 weeks and she was not. And, I think it SHOULD show the judge something for gal to be in there talking about what everyone else could have done but didn't, but she didn't do anything either.</p><p></p><p>Of course, I won't be loooking good because I didn't take the stupid personal;ity test. But at least I can explain my reasons- if judge cares to listen. Given that the judge KNOWS I have been difficult child's onlly real advocate and I was agressive about it, I hope she will listen. My gut tellls me that she trusts me- at least up until now. Plus, she looked shocked when the CA requested a psychiatric evaluation for me and asked the GAL what she thought. If the GAL had said she didn't think it was necessary, the judge would not have ordered it. But it didn't turn out that way. The GAL should have thought thru this- if she gets me found "nuts" and therefore, people like PO are listening to me even less, difficult child has NO effective advocate at all. The CA wasn't there last year when I testified to my previous therapy, depression/anxiety, etc so would not have known my history. I understand that- but I think it was the PO who put these doubts in the CA's mind right before we went in the courtroom. GAL was there last year and should have not agreed that a psychiatric evaluation for me was necessary. You can bet I will be reminding them on Mon that I testified a year ago about my issues.</p><p></p><p>You can bet, I've been a thorn in the side of many people in this county by pushing them to address difficult child's needs and comply with the law. They would love nothing more than to know I have a diagnosis, court ordered therapy, and medications I have to take.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 254510, member: 3699"] That's somewhat what I'm thinking- if I can get out of there witthout a court order. If she sends him home with us requiring so many hours/week of therapy by their tdocs (who call the hours and days), I'll never be able to work full time or get out of here. I tried to explain this to PO's super, but he told me he didn't care. Plus, difficult child and I both continuously deteriorated with this PO in our lives. She will never let him offf probation and will not give any criteria or means to get off. difficult child's therapist said this made difficult child hopeless and give up- which made me crazy because I couldn't get him to do anything. Then, he started refusing to listen to me at all and didn't care what he did because he knew PO would come down on me instead of him. It's like there is no way out. 'I don't want it to be state juvy though, because it would be too much of a dettriment to difficult child. He would still come out on probation, but if I could get in an area that actually allowed a kid to get out of the system within a reasonable amount of time, it would do us a lot of good. Something interesting- I found on line that this judge had advocated to get a law passed so kids in legal trouble could claim "not guilty due to insanity or menttal illness" so that juvenile judges could access more treatment instead of juvy. She hasn't won this yet, but it tells me my gut has been right- the problem isn't the judge. Although I still beleive that she could force the Residential Treatment Center (RTC)- by ordering the PO to do her job- just liike a judge can order inpatient substance abuse programs. Anyway- the problem is the people between the judge and the family. They don't know what they are doing, they don't care, they don't make enough effort, and they are too interested in blaming the family and CYA themselves than they are really getting help or prevention. But how to get the judge to see that without really stepping out of line is a different story. It should help if GAL does what she said she was going to- ttell the judge that dss never called her back or took any steps and that PO could have gotten the county team to get difficult child into Residential Treatment Center (RTC) but didn't. Plus, the GAL knows this so-called mental health cm could have done it but didn't. Now, I also think GAL should have been agressively advocaating for difficult child this past 3 weeks and she was not. And, I think it SHOULD show the judge something for gal to be in there talking about what everyone else could have done but didn't, but she didn't do anything either. Of course, I won't be loooking good because I didn't take the stupid personal;ity test. But at least I can explain my reasons- if judge cares to listen. Given that the judge KNOWS I have been difficult child's onlly real advocate and I was agressive about it, I hope she will listen. My gut tellls me that she trusts me- at least up until now. Plus, she looked shocked when the CA requested a psychiatric evaluation for me and asked the GAL what she thought. If the GAL had said she didn't think it was necessary, the judge would not have ordered it. But it didn't turn out that way. The GAL should have thought thru this- if she gets me found "nuts" and therefore, people like PO are listening to me even less, difficult child has NO effective advocate at all. The CA wasn't there last year when I testified to my previous therapy, depression/anxiety, etc so would not have known my history. I understand that- but I think it was the PO who put these doubts in the CA's mind right before we went in the courtroom. GAL was there last year and should have not agreed that a psychiatric evaluation for me was necessary. You can bet I will be reminding them on Mon that I testified a year ago about my issues. You can bet, I've been a thorn in the side of many people in this county by pushing them to address difficult child's needs and comply with the law. They would love nothing more than to know I have a diagnosis, court ordered therapy, and medications I have to take. [/QUOTE]
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