Hi all, looking for ideas. difficult child 14ss was pretending since christmas that he is very depressed/out of it/over medicated. We got another letter from the school yesterday, after he has had a week or so of admitting his scam and promising to do better. He talked to the teachers but is still rolling his eyes into the back of his head and seems to walk around uncoordinated. We have another talk with him. (Seriously considering hospitalization) So he says why don't you just send me back to live with my mom. (they get along great now...i wonder why...no daily battles with him...he was violent at her home) This is not an option for him. So here lies my question. How do I help him realise that this is not viable. He keeps fantasising (sp) that things would be great there. He would magically do all his work/or they would work together on it. He would no longer "forget" assignments / instructions. MAGICAL THINKING. We have talked about this with therapist (have an appointment tonite). Apparently we have made no progress. How do I get him to wake up and be present, see the reality of his situation. He is slowly killing this school year. He is so sure that we will send him packing if he doesnt act right. His biomom used to feed these fantasys. We are not sure if she is still doing that. (talking to her about it is unproductive....but we are even considering that) My husband is entertaining the idea of broaching the subject of her taking custody back. But that would not be good. He would not quailfy for the ins we have him on and the other coverage does not cover anything. So he would go off medications and she was not hip on following up on therapy and docs recommendations. Any input would be appreciated.