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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 490488" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>I agree with Daisy - in the instance of J seeing that image. I'm not sure what a four year olds concept would be on that picture. </p><p></p><p>Thought provoking for an adult but perhaps not so much to a four year old unless ideas were planted. (not that you DID Malika) </p><p></p><p>For example - I'm in the doctors office yesterday. There are two very nice little boys and I mean little - like one was three and the other was 8 months. Their Mom was sitting and playing with the 8 month old and the 3 year old got down and went across the office to look at the Christmas tree. The little boy was fine, and the Mother got up - and walked over to the tree to get her son. The door opened and the little boy turned to just see who was at the door. Nothing more -just looked. He was content with seeing the nurse. But as he turned back to the tree, the Mother turned to the room and said "Oh every time that door opens he remembers the last time he was here and got a needle in his arm and he got a shot, and he didn't like it and he cried." and I'm thinking - WHAT a nincompoop....and you guessed it - Guess who started screaming. The three year old. </p><p>Seed planted. </p><p>So what I'm saying is - the three year old thought NOTHING of the door being opened. He's three, he's looking at the tree, and it's anyones guess what's going through his head. But what the Mother said after that planted an idea. He wasn't prone to crying - otherwise he would have been crying when the door opened. He wasn't thinking about being afraid - otherwise he'd been afraid when he got in the doctor's office waiting room and seen the door. IT's doubtful to me whether it crossed his mind at all until his Mom told a room full of people He was here, he got a needle, it was a shot, he didn't like it, he cried. Wow four negatives in one sentence. Good job. I think had her perceptions of the event maybe had been - LOOK there's the friendly nurse and she likes my son, and when we leave we're going to have a Happy Meal - maybe the child wouldn't have had anxiety. No one lied - we just didn't bring up the absolute truth to a brain that is immature. Some things are better left unsaid until another time. </p><p></p><p>Much like that violence in the picture....in my humble opinion - J is four - I don't know exactly what I would have said - and I'm not sure what you did say ------but I think I would have said - It's an ad for selling big boots and dancing around silly with your top over your head. - I would have felt comfy telling that to someone at age 4 - I would have been hard pressed to tell a four year old men were stomping the poo out of a woman 1/2 dressed and it was wrong, and mean and cruel. There's plenty of time for that in life. </p><p></p><p>But then, perhaps I live in my own little world where it's a wonderful life. lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 490488, member: 4964"] I agree with Daisy - in the instance of J seeing that image. I'm not sure what a four year olds concept would be on that picture. Thought provoking for an adult but perhaps not so much to a four year old unless ideas were planted. (not that you DID Malika) For example - I'm in the doctors office yesterday. There are two very nice little boys and I mean little - like one was three and the other was 8 months. Their Mom was sitting and playing with the 8 month old and the 3 year old got down and went across the office to look at the Christmas tree. The little boy was fine, and the Mother got up - and walked over to the tree to get her son. The door opened and the little boy turned to just see who was at the door. Nothing more -just looked. He was content with seeing the nurse. But as he turned back to the tree, the Mother turned to the room and said "Oh every time that door opens he remembers the last time he was here and got a needle in his arm and he got a shot, and he didn't like it and he cried." and I'm thinking - WHAT a nincompoop....and you guessed it - Guess who started screaming. The three year old. Seed planted. So what I'm saying is - the three year old thought NOTHING of the door being opened. He's three, he's looking at the tree, and it's anyones guess what's going through his head. But what the Mother said after that planted an idea. He wasn't prone to crying - otherwise he would have been crying when the door opened. He wasn't thinking about being afraid - otherwise he'd been afraid when he got in the doctor's office waiting room and seen the door. IT's doubtful to me whether it crossed his mind at all until his Mom told a room full of people He was here, he got a needle, it was a shot, he didn't like it, he cried. Wow four negatives in one sentence. Good job. I think had her perceptions of the event maybe had been - LOOK there's the friendly nurse and she likes my son, and when we leave we're going to have a Happy Meal - maybe the child wouldn't have had anxiety. No one lied - we just didn't bring up the absolute truth to a brain that is immature. Some things are better left unsaid until another time. Much like that violence in the picture....in my humble opinion - J is four - I don't know exactly what I would have said - and I'm not sure what you did say ------but I think I would have said - It's an ad for selling big boots and dancing around silly with your top over your head. - I would have felt comfy telling that to someone at age 4 - I would have been hard pressed to tell a four year old men were stomping the poo out of a woman 1/2 dressed and it was wrong, and mean and cruel. There's plenty of time for that in life. But then, perhaps I live in my own little world where it's a wonderful life. lol. [/QUOTE]
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