I have had a weird roller coaster ride the past two weeks.... My main question/comment/vent....has to do with Father's Day difficult child had no money for Father's Day. husband needed some work done on the computer in a hurry. Sometimes she does work for husband...he has small company and sometimes hires her for a few hours here and there. I called her a few days before FD and asked her if she wanted the work and reminded her that she could buy him a present with some or all of the money, depending on how long she worked. She said "yes" right away. husband was very happy about this and said he would pick her up a day or two before FD. However, that morning she picked a very bad fight with him about wanting to move out of her apartment. She wants to move repeatedly for a variety of reasons, but doesn't have the money to do so. She ended up not working for husband and did not buy him a present, send him a card, no email...just a phone call. On top of that, husband didn't get the work he needed finished and had to do it himself. So, on Father's Day, she called and wished him a Happy Father's Day. Then she wanted to know if we were going to breakfast "like usual." He said "no." And that was it. Nothing else was said or done. Thank goodness, I had other nice plans that afternoon. by the way, husband and I no longer support difficult child...with the exception of some medical and hygenic needs and sometimes we will help her with food (very limited). We have recently worked out an arrangement to try out a new therapist...difficult child made the apt. and we will help with the cost of that. Our son was on his honeymoon at the time (Father's Day). When he got back into town and heard what happened, he was very upset. So...he (son) came into town for 4th of July with a GREAT FD present and we all went out to dinner...it was really nice. Son and new daughter in law spent the weekend and we had lots of fun. We only saw difficult child over the weekend one time. WE invited difficult child to pizza and fireworks and she disappeared during pizza time, 'cause the place was near where one of her friends lived and she wanted to see him. HOWEVER, the way she did this was hideous. She picked a fight with her brother and took off as we pulled up to the restaurant. She walked to her friend's apt. Then, she came back right before fireworks time. We ignored her...had a great time at the pizza place with-o her. I am very upset that she blew off Father's Day. I did speak with her briefly about it saying "How would you like it if I 'blew off' your birthday?" So, the next day, Monday, she sent husband a "Father's Day email. I suppose this was decent...she did listen to what I had to say. However, I am forlorn, 'cause husband does a lot for her and she chose to treat him in such a shabby manner. Also, it seems difficult child has developed this interesting way of coping with her problems/stress/conflict...picking fights. Do you see this as well? Thoughts?