Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
Fear of gangs???
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 500552" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>There is nothing that you or PO can do. Any initiative on difficult child's behalf will increase the chances that he will be targeted. Out in the community (different than in any prisons) gang members stick with other gang members. They see each other as "family" and cover each other's backs. Although there are locations where they the bond includes violence for the sake of violence (like in movies with packs of kids roaming the street carrying clubs usually in highly ethnic neighborhoods) most function like a brotherhood.</p><p></p><p>There have always been "tough kids" and "tough neighborhoods". I was blessed to grow up in an awesome City with great peers but even in those circumstances there were kids you "knew" to avoid and not mess with. In the CD family many have difficult child's that need to be avoided due to their propensity for short fuses or violence. There are many gangs where I live and I have been shocked in the past to find that I "know' gang members from my volunteer work in the schools, from my blue collar business and from friends difficult child has made. Violence, when demonstrated, is almost always against competing gangs and usually over drug deals or girls. There is no outward sign that these people are members of gangs and in my personal experience I have always been treated with respect. That's what made it shocking as I learned more about the sub-culture.</p><p></p><p>Your difficult child evidently messed up in prison by overstepping boundaries. He will be out of that environment soon and he, and only he, can use that lesson to move forward to a peaceful existence. The kid he is worried about is not apt to take your difficult child on as a mission. He, too, is getting out into society and will be focused on what is happening to him and around him for his personal gain. If your difficult child concentrates on the positives in his life and leaves prison life in the past it's likely the other kid will ignore him. on the other hand if your difficult child brings it up to "bond", seeks approval from the gangbanger or "mouths off" then there is a good chance a fight will result. The only person who can determine their interaction is your son. PO involvement, parental involvement or "posturing by your difficult child" likely will trigger problems that can be avoided by focusing on his new life opportunities.</p><p></p><p>I am sure that it is a frightening thought for you and may be for your son too. He will be the key player. How he charts his course will be the determining factor. You'll need to focus on the Serenity Prayer and "accept the things you can not change". It's part of your difficult child's history and he can change. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 500552, member: 35"] There is nothing that you or PO can do. Any initiative on difficult child's behalf will increase the chances that he will be targeted. Out in the community (different than in any prisons) gang members stick with other gang members. They see each other as "family" and cover each other's backs. Although there are locations where they the bond includes violence for the sake of violence (like in movies with packs of kids roaming the street carrying clubs usually in highly ethnic neighborhoods) most function like a brotherhood. There have always been "tough kids" and "tough neighborhoods". I was blessed to grow up in an awesome City with great peers but even in those circumstances there were kids you "knew" to avoid and not mess with. In the CD family many have difficult child's that need to be avoided due to their propensity for short fuses or violence. There are many gangs where I live and I have been shocked in the past to find that I "know' gang members from my volunteer work in the schools, from my blue collar business and from friends difficult child has made. Violence, when demonstrated, is almost always against competing gangs and usually over drug deals or girls. There is no outward sign that these people are members of gangs and in my personal experience I have always been treated with respect. That's what made it shocking as I learned more about the sub-culture. Your difficult child evidently messed up in prison by overstepping boundaries. He will be out of that environment soon and he, and only he, can use that lesson to move forward to a peaceful existence. The kid he is worried about is not apt to take your difficult child on as a mission. He, too, is getting out into society and will be focused on what is happening to him and around him for his personal gain. If your difficult child concentrates on the positives in his life and leaves prison life in the past it's likely the other kid will ignore him. on the other hand if your difficult child brings it up to "bond", seeks approval from the gangbanger or "mouths off" then there is a good chance a fight will result. The only person who can determine their interaction is your son. PO involvement, parental involvement or "posturing by your difficult child" likely will trigger problems that can be avoided by focusing on his new life opportunities. I am sure that it is a frightening thought for you and may be for your son too. He will be the key player. How he charts his course will be the determining factor. You'll need to focus on the Serenity Prayer and "accept the things you can not change". It's part of your difficult child's history and he can change. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
Fear of gangs???
Top